You're a Vanilla girl - you enjoy romance, passion and sexy moments shared with your man. Sex is best for you when it's one-on-one and filled with romantic surprises. This doesn't mean it's all kisses and caresses though - you've got a naughty streak in you that drives your lover wild. Champagne, feathers, silk-sheets and roses are a few of your turn ons.
There is an art to giving any good massage – the way you hold and move your hands, learning the right strokes and techniques, which part of the body needs each type of touch and so much more. That is even more applicable to an erotic massage. You may be wondering an easy way to determine if a massage is a therapeutic or an erotic massage. It depends on the intent.
Do you want to relax the person? That would be therapeutic.
Do you want to arouse and stimulate your partner? That’s an erotic massage.
These are some of the topics in the erotic massage certification course.
Basics of Erotic Massage
The Supplies You Need For a Massage
Create a Sensual Atmosphere
Heat Things Up
Prepare the Massage Location
Massage Oil
Massage Guidelines
Types of Touch
Isolated Massage
Massage Techniques to Cover Your Lover’s Body
Massage “Down South” – Below the Waist
Create a Happy Ending
Some of the reasons to give an erotic massage include:
Relieve tension
Improve blood circulation
Move energy around the body
Sexually arouse your lover and you
Help couples exhibit intimacy for one another
A safer sex alternative
You need to create the atmosphere with candles, aromatherapy, a pillow, a warm blanket, soft music and these are just the beginning. Its important to have a good surface for your massage – a mattress, a bed, a futon or possibly a massage table. Which ever surface you choose – be sure that it is well padded to make it comfortable. Cover the surface with a clean sheet and you will need one or two other sheets or light blankets to lay over your partner. A pillow for his or her head and another pillow or a rolled up towel for their back, knees, legs and/or feet are good items to have.
The room should be warm – but not hot. You can have some light, but no harsh lights or even natural light. The scents you use should be relaxing and soothing, just like the music you choose. You may want to try several different types of music to see which your partner enjoys the most. It can be good to have a variety of music. You also need to have a good massage oil – be sure to use sufficient oil during the massage.
These are the six keys to a great massage – read on for more detail.
Be present
Full contact
Continuous movement
Attend to both sides
Variety
Land/take-off rarely
These keys are discussed in full detail in the massage certification course along with plenty of pictures.
But – here is some detail….
Be present – be there with your partner, focus on them and be aware of where your hands are and what you’re doing with them
Full contact – keep your hands on your partner, it is great if you move from one part of the body to another and continue to touch them the whole time
Continuous movement – always move your hands, kneading, rubbing, stroking and much more, but keep your hands and body moving on your partner’s body
Attend to both sides – give sufficient attention to your partner’s back and front – when you’re finished massaging their back, have them roll over
Variety – you want to use a variety of strokes, different pressure depending on the part of the body and make some strokes long and others short, vary your touch to keep the massage interesting
These tips are just the beginning.
There are also detailed instructions for a very intimate massage – you will learn to massage your partner’s genital area completely and a variety of different strokes and techniques.
You want to Learn How to Give a Woman a Full Body Massage
You want to Learn How to Give a Man a Full Body Massage
You want to Discover a Secret Guaranteed to Lead to Nights of Passion
You want to Increase the Frequency and Pleasure of Your Sex Life
Welcome to Loveology University’s Erotic Massage Certification Course. Inside you will learn all about the art of erotic massage, how to give it and how to receive it, even how to prepare and set the mood to create the right atmosphere. Then step-by-step techniques that anyone can do as long as they have the desire, so you don’t need to be a professional masseuse or masseur to give a memorable erotic massage. Unlike a therapeutic massage, you’ll use every part of your body including your lips, tongue, hair, nails, breasts, chest, buttocks and of course your sexual organs all over your lover’s body. You’ll slide and rub, stroke and lick, pinch and suck every inch of their body. You’ll teach them what you want them to do to you and in doing so add sizzle and spice to your relationship. You’ll learn what to say when giving an erotic massage and what feedback to give when receiving one. So sit back, relax and let this course work its magic.
At times when you are getting ready to have sex – you realize that you want a little more moisture — that’s the perfect time for Moist — such a great name for a lubricant. Many lubes have a variety of ingredients that you could be allergic to or that will react badly with some toys – but Moist gives you a wide variety of lubes to pick from. The bottle is clear – so you know when you’re running out and the squirt top is great – whether you need a little or a lot.
The clear, water based personal lubricant is the one that I received. These are some of the options – so no matter what type of lube you need or you prefer – they have the variety to fill your needs.
Moist Personal Lubricant
Silicone Moist
Moist Anal Lube
Moist Gel
Moist Sampler
Moist Lite
Moist Heat
Moist Shower Gel
Glycerine Free Moist
Flavored Moist – Strawberry
Flavored Moist – Cherry
Flavored Moist – Passion Fruit
Flavored Moist – Kiwi
Master Sexpert Tips -
Even if moisture isn’t a concern for you and your partner, using a bit of lube can make sex even more enjoyable.
Lube is perfect for those times when you need some extra moisture – or if you want that extra smooth, silky feel in your love making.
Lube is beneficial for many forms of sexual activity – masturbation, vaginal intercourse, anal sex and flavored lubes are great for oral sex – pick your flavor or choice or try different flavors. Some lubes are especially made for use in the tub, shower or hot tub.
Never use a silicone lube with silicone toys.
Always use a water based lube inside a woman’s body
Warming lubes are great for nipple and breast stimulation and can be used on the genitals
If you prefer more vigorous sex – definitely use lube to cut down on the friction and to let your partner thrust harder – for longer — and often, that’s what we want — isn’t it?
Oil and petroleum based lubes should not be used with condoms because it can cause the condom to deteriorate – o, KY Jelly should NOT be used with condoms
Water based lubes are a great choice, they are compatible with all toys and with condoms, it is easy to clean, and it doesn’t stain.
You may want to test several types of lubes on your own to see which type and what feel you like better. Then keep it close to your bed, in your glove compartment or purse — depending on where you plan to have sex
Moist comes in small packets to make it very easy to have lube with you – on the go.
The clear choice in personal pleasure and voted BEST Lubricant by Women’s Health Magazine. Our water-based Moist lubricant comes closest to feeling like your body’s natural lubricant. Moist is crystal clear, condom safe, non-staining and fragrance-free, providing long-lasting slipperiness. Our easy dispenser makes reapplying a dab easy and hassle-free. Moist comes in various sizes and for on-the-go travel. You’ve experienced the rest, now experience the BEST!
I have to start this by saying that I’ve heard raves about these massagers – but I was confused by how good they could possibly feel. I have to admit that I was wrong – its wonderful. I’m used to the usual toys – and just didn’t understand how this would work. But I’ve always been known for having a great imagination and plenty of creativity – that does come in handy
First – rechargeable toys are very nice. No cord to get in the way and no need to buy batteries. This is also good for a variety of “aches” I have horrible sinus trouble and bad migraines – and it has been useful for both. If your neck is stiff or your back hurts – this is a great way to loosen up and work out the kinks. So – you could keep this massager “out in the open” – places you probably wouldn’t keep a phallic shaped toy
While the Wanachi Massager is good for those aches, pains and kinks anywhere on your body – it is also very good for those aches and kinks in more intimate parts of your body.
The head of the massager is flexible – this is nice to use different parts of this vibrator on your body. The massager works to massage your breasts, your nipples, your neck, your thighs and of course the most intimate parts Keep in mind that since the “head” is bigger than most vibrators, it will stimulate a larger area – and the flexible head also lets you stimulate all those sensitive areas between your legs in a variety of ways. You have some additional options with this massager to simulate “outercourse” during masturabation. How many areas outside of your vagina can you find that like to be stimulated? Hmmmm -
The top of the massager is silky smooth and can be used with or without lube, but we all know lube makes it better I’d love to hear how many ways you find to use your massager. If you really want to share – you can share the most unusual area on your body that you massaged or the most unusual way you used it. Speaking of sharing – you can use this alone, but if your partner is willing – definitely share the massager.
Master Sexpert Tips -
Use the massager “dry” or with plenty of lube (Moist is a great choice).
For women – never use a toy in or around the anus and move to or near the vagina without cleaning it thoroughly first – with toy cleaner or soap and water.
Be creative – this toy has a great shape, so turn it and use at different angles to see which feel better for you. Let your partner try many variations and let him/her know what you like better. Then use it on them
Be sure to thoroughly clean all toys before and after you use them. This is really easy with toy cleaner or soap and hot water.
If you want to give your partner an erotic massage – use this massager to get deeper than you can get with just your hands. You can work out those kinks and pressure points on their body and stimulate them in other ways too — use your imagination and ask what they like, then see if they will give you a massage…
Ladies – if you have bad cramps with your period and you don’t like the idea of using a dildo or vibrator during that time of the month — keep this massager in mind, it works outside the body and you can definitely have an orgasm with it. Sex and orgasms are a great drug free cramp reliever.
Enjoy soothing vibrations anywhere you go with this cordless rechargeable massager. Powered by a whisper-quiet motor and rechargeable battery, the Wanachi massager is the premier choice for revitalizing tired muscles. Choose between 2 levels of soothing vibrations and enjoy the freedom of wireless stimulation. Plug in the AC-adapter for a quick recharge and the Wanachi is ready for portable action. The relaxing vibrations relieve tension and reduce muscle fatigue, giving your aching body the recharge it deserves.
This is a toy that is for men (but women can enjoy it too . I asked a friend to share his thoughts – he was very enthusiastic about this toy too. He has told me in the past that he “wore out” anal toys – so I had to get his thoughts about this “hefty” toy. Let’s put it this way — I haven’t seen it since I let him try it out.
It is not for the person who is timid about anal play and who is looking for a small, timid anal toy. This is a serious toy for anal play. There are five vibrator speeds and variations for your anal stimulation.
Of course you can use this for any vibrator play but it is made with special features for anal play. It is made to be held securely and easily. Your fingers fit easily over the cross section and leaves your thumb in the perfect spot to adjust the vibrations as you need less or more stimulation.
The shaft has an interesting shape that feels very good when you are using this vibrator. The shaft is also flexible. In the beginning I mentioned this is not for the timid. If you are concerned about the size – I recommend Moist lube. Plenty of lube and this hefty vibrator will slide right in and you know the wetter, the better and the more fun you will have.
Master Sexpert Tips -
For people who are new to G-spot stimulation — it feels like you need to pee, when the G-spot is stimulated – so use the bathroom before starting your exploration and stimulation.
I have recommended being very careful with anal toys to be sure they don’t slide in too far – or slip out of your fingers and “get lost”. You won’t have that concern with this toy.
Use plenty of lube (Moist is a great choice) for anal massage
For women – never use a toy in the anus and move to the vagina without cleaning it thoroughly first – with toy cleaner or soap and water.
Be creative – this toy has a great shape, so turn it and use at different angles to see which feel better for you. Let your partner try many variations and let him/her know what you like better. Then use it on them
Be sure to thoroughly clean all toys before and after you use them. This is really easy with toy cleaner or soap and hot water.
Last tip – if you’d like to experience a bigasm, use this sweet toy on your G-spot and use another toy, your fingers or your partners fingers or mouth on your clitoris at the same time for the women. A bigasm is also possible for men – slide this vibe into your anus and stroke your penis or ask your partner to please you orally – at the same time. You will enjoy it
If you want to share – clean your toys very well or you can each use a condom for your play and then clean the toy when you’re finished.
I will say that I did not like the smell of this toy – but that was the only negative I found.
This is no ordinary prostate exam! The 5-Function P.E. Vibe is the ultimate device for men who want to take pleasure to the next level. The soft rounded massager is specially beaded to stimulate a man’s prostate, delivering mind-blowing sensations that end with incredible climaxes. Experience the most intense, most powerful, most explosive ejaculations ever! The smooth, rounded tip makes insertion easy, and the beaded wide-grip handles ensure safe removal. Choose a function that’s right for you and enjoy a whole new realm of pleasure. Use plenty of Moist lubricant for an extra wet, extra wild encounter. Cleanup is a snap using Toy Cleaner and warm water. Works great in the shower, spa, or bath. Psssst… it also is a great vibrator for women, too!
Let’s start with the forearm and work our way to the fingertips. You can gently caress the forearm with your hands and your lips. Feather light kisses on this area are very stimulating. Hold your lovers hand and turn the arm to give you easy access to the forearm. You may choose to kiss or lightly suck on his or her elbow.
While you’re holding their hand, slowly and passionately kiss the wrist and maybe include some small nibbles on the sensitive skin on the inside of the wrist. Let your tongue slide down onto their palm, before you kiss and suck on the palm, making lazy circles with the tip of your tongue. Do you remember in high school where your young love would tickle the palm of your hand to tell you what they wanted to do to you? Remember how good that felt? Doing the same thing with your tongue is even better…
Now – you’re to the fingers. Gently kiss the fingers and suck each one separately. Use your hand to spread the fingers wide – and the next thing you should do, is determined by whether your lover is a man or a woman. For a man, take his fingers into your mouth and suck each one as if it was his penis. Any technique you would use to give him oral sex – you can use on his hand and watch how turned on he becomes. Now, to kiss her hand. You want to spread her fingers apart and then kiss between her fingers – tickling this area with your tongue. Treat her hand just like you would kiss her during oral sex. Are you wondering if that will actually work? Give it a try and use as much enthusiasm as you would if it was oral sex – and you let me know if your partner enjoys it. The handcuffs in the picture are optional
While we’re talking about the hands and arms, let’s move down to the feet. Do you like to have your toes sucked? If you haven’t tried it before – you should try it now. Clean your feet very well and have your lover massage your feet with their hands and then kiss your feet, your ankles, and your toes. I love to have someone play with my feet and then lick and suck my toes – but I will warn you to be careful and adjust your touch based on how ticklish they are. A breeze hits my feet and it tickles, so it may take a little practice to get the touch right for your partner.
Now move to your partner’s calves – again, it is wonderful to massage the calves and then follow your hands with your mouth, lips and tongue. Try different touches and watch your lover’s reactions. When you find things the enjoy, do those things again. That applies to anything you do – anywhere on their body. Move up to the knee and you can kiss the kiss, maybe suck gently behind their knee and maybe some small nibbles around the knee.
This leads perfectly into moving your way up the thigh. You can kiss the front, the back and the side of your lovers thighs. Kiss, lick, suck and nibble your way around the thigh and higher – ever closer to their sweet spot. As you move to the inner thigh – remember the inner thigh is much more sensitive. You can kiss your lover’s thigh with them standing to give you full access, with them lying on their back to let you kiss the front and sides of their thighs or you can roll them over – so you can kiss the back and inside of their thighs. If you have them lie on their stomach – they won’t see you coming and this can add some great sensations as you work your way up their leg with your mouth.
Move carefully, use every trick with your mouth, your lips and your tongue that you’ve mastered and work your lover into a frenzy – before you move in to kiss their genital area – with a most intimate kiss.
I’m reading a book called The Sorcerer’s Dream and it is the autobiographic account of the training to become a female sorcerer. One of the things the author mentioned in one of her interviews I read is about releasing your sexual energy through conscious dreaming — that sounds very interesting. So – I just sent a message to her to see if she will share a guest post that I can share. Will keep you posted
This is sort of a continuation of my “story” from last night The same conversation with a good friend – sparked my interest to trying out this G-spot toy. If you would like to see my thoughts and suggestions for the Pretty Pink Pearl G-spot Massager – click here.
The Le Reve is an interesting massager with a perfect shape to stimulate the G-spot. We all know that a firm tip that reaches the G-spot is great for pure stimulation and enjoyment. I did get a kick out of the comment that this is an ergonomic toy — but they are right. Great lines for G-spot stimulation The packaging for this product line is also very nice.
This is a massager that you can use alone, which makes it much easier to reach your own G-spot and it is also a great toy to help your partner locate and stimulate your G-spot. Depending on your and your partner’s experience with finding the G-spot, either of you may want to use your fingers first – so you can feel the area, since it does have an unusual feel – sort of like corduroy. But, you will feel the stimulation when the toy reaches the right spot – there is no mistaking that feeling. Actually, that is exactly true, see my Master Sexpert Tip below and how this massage feels.
I didn’t notice right away that this toy has 4 speeds, instead of the usual 3. Four is even better. The controls are in a great place and very easy for you or you partner to use. The positioning of the controls makes it very easy for your partner to have control and to stimulate your G-spot at the same time. Tapping on your G-spot is very stimulating and this design is great for tapping and massaging. One thing to be careful about is that this toy gets very slippery when its wet.
Master Sexpert Tips -
For people who are new to G-spot stimulation — I should mention that it feels like you need to pee, when the G-spot is stimulated – so use the bathroom before starting your exploration and stimulation.
If used for anal stimulation, hold tight to the controller end of the toy since the larger end would be inside and you don’t want to toy to slide in too far
Use plenty of lube (Moist is a great choice) for clitoral, vaginal, G-spot or especially anal massage
Never use a toy in the anus and move to the vagina without cleaning it thoroughly first – with toy cleaner or soap and water.
Be creative – this toy has a great shape, so turn it and use at different angles to see which feel better for you. Let your partner try many variations and let him/her know what you like better. Then use it on them
Be sure to thoroughly clean all toys before and after you use them. This is really easy with toy cleaner or soap and hot water.
Last tip – if you’d like to experience a bigasm, use this sweet toy on your G-spot and use another toy, your fingers or your partners fingers or mouth on your clitoris at the same time. You will thank me if you try this
Awaken your senses to Le Réve, the heavenly new multi-speed massager designed to fulfill your dreams and desires. Cleverly curved to reach all the right spots, this contoured vibe is smooth, sophisticated, and ultra satisfying. The highly polished plastic is hygienic and non-porous, and cleanup is a snap after the fun with Pipedream Toy Cleaner and warm water.
The curved shape and powerful vibrations make it perfect for G-spot stimulation, direct clitoral stimulation, or nipple and breast play. And no one will know your little secret, thanks to the whisper-quiet motor and discreet design! Use plenty of Moist lubricant for an extra wet, extra wild encounter.
This is my first review for Pipedream products and I was debating which toy to share with you first. Then a friend helped me make up my mind last night. We were texting each other at the end of the day and he asked his usual question, “Have you had an orgasm today?” I laughed and then texted that I hadn’t. So – he gave his suggestion that I should get a toy out and find my G-spot. This is interesting because years ago we shared my first G-spot orgasm. Sounded like a good suggestion to me
First let’s talk about the Pretty Pearl G-Spot Vibrator. It does have a pearly pink appearance. It is also waterproof – so you can use it in the bath or the shower if you want — such a nice way to spice up bathtime
The shape of this vibe is a little different, but its a nice feel instead of the usual G-spot vibe. The larger area behind the G-spot tip is a nice addition. That area is very nice for clitoral stimulation, as a prelude to stimulating your G-spot The Pretty Pink has 3 speeds – so you can choose your amount of vibration or you can easily adjust the vibe as needed – just push the button on the bottom. Even on high – this toy is pretty quiet. I don’t know about you – but I like quiet toys
Pros of the Pretty Pink G-spot massager -
Sleek and smooth to the touch
Nice shape for clitoral or g-spot massage – at different times of course
Can be used for anal stimulation — see sexpert tip below.
Quiet and variable speed vibration
Easy to clean
Sexpert Tips -
If used for anal stimulation, hold tight to the controller end of the toy since the larger end would be inside and you don’t want to toy to slide in too far
Use plenty of lube (Moist is a great choice) for clitoral, vaginal, G-spot or especially anal massage
Never use a toy in the anus and move to the vagina without cleaning it thoroughly first – with toy cleaner or soap and water.
Be creative – this toy has a great shape, so turn it and use at different angles to see which feel better for you. Let your partner try many variations and let him/her know what you like better. Then use it on them
Be sure to thoroughly clean all toys before and after you use them. This is really easy with toy cleaner or soap and hot water.
Last tip – if you’d like to experience a bigasm, use this sweet toy on your G-spot and use another toy, your fingers or your partners fingers or mouth on your clitoris at the same time. You will thank me if you try this
We’ve covered kissing the jaw, the neck, the face and most definitely the mouth. Now – let’s move around to the back.
Back and Shoulders – When you’re behind your lover, you can kiss them on the back of the neck, behind the ears, on the shoulders, and between the shoulder blades. Many great areas to kiss lightly, play on their skin with the tip of your tongue, run your tongue down their back to send a great rush along their spine. The lower you kiss and nibble – the more seductive your touch will become. But we’re not moving to their butt, that’s material for another post.
Once you’ve covered their shoulders and back with kisses – turn your lover around and start all over again on their chest. Kissing their chest is great for a man or a woman. You can start under the jaw and come down their neck first, maybe slide your tongue over to play with an earlobe and if you want to move your hands to their chest as your mouth is busy on their neck – I don’t think they will mind. Once you have given them chills by working their neck with your lips and tongue – let’s move the mouth lower.
Flicking your tongue across and around your lover’s nipples is very nice – for a man or a woman. Keep in mind that some people have very sensitive nipples – so watch their reactions to see how much pressure feels good, especially when you suck their nipples. There are also some times when nipples and breasts are more sensitive – so don’t think you can use the same pressure all the time. I’ve also noticed that the intensity of kissing and sucking that feels good can depend on how aroused the person is — always watch and listen to your lover’s reactions to see if its too gentle, too hard or just right.
On your lady’s chest and around her breasts – don’t limit yourself to the nipples. What about under her breast, around the side, around the nipple – you will find various areas that are sensitive. Use your fingers, your hands, your tongue and mouth to find each and every one of these areas. Remember the human body has many erogenous zones – how many can you find?
While you’re in this area, move your mouth under your lover’s arm – it may be ticklish, but you should also find areas that will turn her on. The parts of the underarm that you want to kiss and play with can depend on many things – but I just wanted to suggest that you give it a try.
Your Lover’s Stomach & Belly Button - You can kiss your lover’s chest as you move down from the breasts. Feel free to play with their breasts with your hands as you kiss their chest, moving closer to the belly button. What about running your tongue around the rim of their belly button – maybe dipping your tongue inside — that will be good practice for later. When you play with their belly button with your tongue, get creative. You can vary the stroke of your tongue. Have you ever used your tongue to “write” the alphabet across and around their belly button? Hmm, its good practice – we’re going to use that technique a little lower too. Its always good to build up those muscles in your tongue On your lovers stomach, you can play with your tongue and make letters and/or shapes on their stomach. You can kiss their stomach and playfully nibble them as you move to the sides or as you move lower. But keep it interesting and add some variety.
Just about all of the areas in this post are places where your lover may not be able to watch you — so you will have the ability to surprise them – especially on their back and neck and as you move lower on their stomach. You can use this to make it even more erotic, seductive and enjoyable for your lover.
The most important things are to be enthusiastic, be creative, use plenty of variety and have fun
This is the one I heard on Dancing with the Stars — before I got distracted One of the all time awesome romantic songs…..
Lying beside you
Here in the dark
Feeling your heart with mine
Softly you whisper
You’re so sincere
How could our love be so blind
We sailed on together
We drifted apart
And here you are
By my side
So now I come to you
With open arms
Nothing to hide
Believe what I say
So here I am
With open arms
Hoping you’ll see
What your love means to me
Open arms
Living without you
Living alone
This empty house seems so cold
Wanting to hold you
Wanting you near
How much I wanted you home
But now that you’ve come back
Turned night into day
I need you to stay
So now I come to you
With open arms
Nothing to hide
Believe what I say
So here I am
With open arms
Hoping you’ll see
What your love means to me
Open arms
There is an art to giving any good massage – the way you hold and move your hands, learning the right strokes and techniques, which part of the body needs each type of touch and so much more. That is even more applicable to an erotic massage. You may be wondering an easy way to determine if a massage is a therapeutic or an erotic massage. It depends on the intent.
