Sex Toy Review – Vibrating Nipple Pumps (Pipedream)

I have to admit that my curiosity got the best of me. I wanted to experiment with something different, so I got the Fetish Fantasy Vibrating Nipple Pumps. I have to start by saying that nothing beats the mouth and tongue of a skillful partner – but this is interesting and stimulating. I’ve always been curious about a penis pump — now I have an idea of what they feels like. Although obviously on different body parts But I think its the same basic idea. If anyone has a different thought about that, definitely let me know.

Okay – let me start by telling you that Pipedream has a nice selection of nipple accessories and toys – depending on what you want. To view their full line of Nipple Stimulators and Pumps, click here. There are various kinds and a wide range in prices.

I will share my experimentation and my experience – I also welcome your comments.  Be warned that you will have to figure out how it all works and the picture does help. Here is what I did –

• Take all the pieces out of the box
• There are batteries which you will need to put into the vibrator tips

Master Sexpert Tips

• This is where it gets complicated alone – at least the first time. You need to hold both of the cups against your skin firmly. Holding them with one hand is best because you will need to squeeze the bulb.
• You can wet the skin around your nipples or the edge of the “cup” before placing it against the skin. There is a sample tube of Moist Lubricant (http://shedyourinhibitions.com/2010/05/27/sex-toy-review-moist-personal-lubricant/)  in the box and a sample of sex toy cleaner too.
• Make sure the cup is placed so that it cover the nipple completely and its good to center the nipple
• If you want some vibration, twist the black caps on the vibrator “bullet”
• With the cups placed againt the skin and over your nipples – squeeze the bulb and you should feel the suction and a tug right away. The intensity will vary if cups aren’t placed firmly against the skin.
• Each time you squeeze the bulb, you will increase the pressure and the suction – so you or your partner control the sensations you feel. The more suction you use, the larger your nipples will become.
• Once you have the cups in place and the suction working, you can play with the amount of suction. If you feel the suction or tension lessening, just squeeze the bulb again.
• If you want a different tingle on your nipples, gently tap the black button just beside the bulb you sqeezed. I think it tickles, but don’t press it too far or the cups will come off.
• Play around with the vibration and the suction to see how much you like. Obviously different people will like it different.
• Be sure the cups are centered over your nipple for the best stimulation and this will enlarge your nipples. If the cups aren’t centered, the suction will tug on the skin around your nipples.
• Try this on your male or female partner — remember that many men enjoy nipple stimulation too
• If you do this right — its guaranteed to give you large, hard, perky nipples

If you like the idea of the suction, but prefer to try it on your clitoris, click here for another Fetish Fantasy Series – Vibrating Clit Super Suck Her.

Here is some details from the Pipedream webite -

Nipple Vibrator – http://www.pipedreamcompanystore.com/showdetail_c.php?Full_Number=PD3223-00&DB_Number=

Fetish Fantasy Series
Vibrating Nipple Super Suck-hers

Get your nipples perking with pleasure with the Fetish Fantasy Vibrating Nipple Pumps! Turn on the mini vibrators, place the cupped Nipple Pumps over the nipples and squeeze the medical-style pump ball until the suckers stay in place. The stimulating suction, combined with titillating vibrations, brings on a whole new realm of pleasure possibilities. Just press the quick release button to relieve the pressure and you’re ready for perky fun. Try it in the shower or hot tub and turn bath time into passion time!

PinPoint Passion with PinPointsX – Passion at Your Fingertips

How many times have you been in the mood for a erotic, passionate encounter, but you didn’t have anyone to call or couldn’t find anyone that fit your desires at a local bar? Maybe you were out of town and didn’t know anyone, so your only option was to try to find a bar – but you didn’t know the local pick up spots?

Have you ever thought that it would be enjoyable to have a map that showed other people in the area who were looking for a hook up? Well – now, you can have that map at your fingertips and it will help you find a passionate partner – no matter where you are. It’s like having your very own personalized passion rolodex anywhere you go.

When you register for an account on PinPointsX, you enter information about yourself and about what kind of person you are looking for – age, gender, location, sexual preference, your choice of activities and much more. When you want to find an erotic, passionate partner, check your map to check your options. This works whether you are on your home turf or are out of town and on the prowl.

PinPointsX takes social media to a very adult and passionate level.  You can use your iPhone, your Android or you can access your personal passion map on your computer. Have full access to bars, clubs, strip clubs, hotels, motels and erotic partners right in the palm of your hand….

I wanted to get the inside track on this exciting new service, so I’d to share an interview.

Mitzi – Rudy, it is very nice to talk with you today. Thank you for taking time out of your super busy schedule to talk with me about your product, PinPointsX. Tell us briefly, what is this product and what does it do?

Rudy –  PinPointsX provides users with a “Passion Map”, a map of their location or any other location,   that displays the erotic scene around the user; people looking for hookups,  swingers, parties,  adult shops, BDSM clubs, bars, motels, and everyone else that is included in the erotic and nightlife scene.  The cool part about it is that everyone on the map can communicate with each other – even the businesses!  Whether you are using a computer or the mobile app – your gateway to passion is right at your fingertips – It is truly a revolutionary idea.

Mitzi – A passion map — I like the sound of that. The first time I saw one of your posts about this product, I thought of a GPS – that would be a Global Passion Search device. But, seriously, how does this work?

Rudy – I love it! Can we trademark that? The GPS capability is a cool feature that comes with the mobile app. When you start the application you have the option to use your GPS. The app will automatically present you with a Passion Map of your current location and the action around you.

Mitzi – Glad you like that Obviously there will be all kinds of people listed in an area like LA, but I live in a small town in Virginia. There are a couple of college towns within about 30 miles of me. So, since I’m in an area with far fewer people, is there a chance that there would be anyone close by?

Rudy –  Well, I believe that if you live in a very small town then you probably know everyone and what is going on but you’re right, the map is most densely populated with users and business in major urban areas like LA and New York City – although there are exceptions – for example, Long Island was covered with swingers’ parties in the summer.

Mitzi – You are right about small towns. I looked through the sign up page and there are all kinds of options in the “looking for” section – one on one, discreet hookups, group sex, straight, gay, bi, bi-curious and so much more. Does the service really have something for “everyone”?

Rudy – we covered all of the sexual orientation out there, but I’m sure you can always find a new one. We tried to cover as much as possible the major spectrum of sexual preferences, but this is a never-ending list as you know.  That’s why we are providing more tools to our members, such as forums, galleries, and blogs, people that are into “Dogging” can open up their own forum and communicate with each other and invite other curious members to join their sexual scene.

Mitzi – Those features will be great to help people get more information and also to have additional ways to find the best or most appropriate erotic partners. So, tell me, what is some of the feedback that you all are getting on this service?

Rudy – So far everyone just loves it! We had people approaching us at conventions praising the app and giving us tips and ideas for the next versions.  Some of the users find our platform  odd since it is not a “traditional” 90’s look dating site, I believe. We can’t satisfy everyone but we do offer the next innovating progression in the dating world.

Mitzi – I think not looking like a 90′s dating site is a good thing As a promoter – it seems to me that PinPointsX offers great targeted promotion opportunities for businesses of all kinds who want to reach the adult audience. Hmmm, including love coaches and sexperts….  What kind of options do you offer to businesses who would like to promote their services? And, what kind of businesses currently advertise on the site?

Rudy – That’s a good insight Mitzi. The businesses are an important and inseparable part of the platform. Businesses are members and they can do everything a member can do and more.  Businesses can communicate directly with targeted clientele.  Businesses can market themselves on the Passion Map, directly to people in real time (!), or through the forums and galleries. Imagine, for instance, that I’m a bar owner on the upper west side and have a slow Wed night.  I can go on my Passion Map and send a message to other members saying: “Bring five friends tonight and have FREE beer all night!!!” or upload flyers to the gallery. This is what businesses always wanted: direct interaction with potential customers.

Mitzi – That is awesome flexibility for your business members. I’ll have to look at that option more closely. Okay, let’s get to the nitty gritty – how does a person get onto the site and how do they get started?

Rudy – We are constantly improving the user experience; we started with six stages of registration process and in the new version, Oct 25^th, we will have only two stages. So all you need to do is click on the Join Now button, fill out the form, select a package and voilà – you are in the Passion Map! You can choose to stay only with the website or you can download the app as well and enjoy the full experience.

Mitzi – Are there additions coming – that you’d like to share with us?

Rudy –  I wonder if you can keep a secret…

Mitzi — Of course…. who would I tell

Rudy - On the short term, I mean next week, we are adding a points system. So like with Foursquare, you will collect points for things that you do on the platform and each month we are going to have prizes for the high scorers. Scorers of points I mean We are also developing an app for our BlackBerry users!

As for the long term, we are creating sub communities so people with similar sexual preferences will be able to find each other easily.  On January 2011, we are going international, which is very exciting. This means you can have an easy unplanned fling in Paris (not Texas), a passionate night in Milano, or get into an underground BDSM party in Berlin!

Mitzi – It sounds like you all have covered the options for now, have great plans for the future, a great expansion plan and its great when a business is in tune with their users to find ways to serve them better. It will be very interesting to see how the service expands and grows. Thank you very much for taking your time to share this information with us. Did I forget to ask anything? If so – feel free to share anything else we need to know.

Rudy – PinPointsX is an advanced concept and the next step in the dating social network industry. It is important for us that people will bring other members to join as well – we want to enlarge our community. Bigger is better, right? Thank you Mitzi it was a pleasure chatting with you.

Mitzi – Thank you Rudy, it was great to get the additional details from you. Best of luck with your endeavors.

Information From The PinPointsX Website

Who We Are

PinpointsX® Ltd. is an innovative software company, that focuses on providing adults and adult establishments with advanced technologies and services for matchmaking and dating.

PinPointsX® is a patent pending cellular (mobile) application and a correlative adult-social-networking website, enabling its members to ‘locate & interact’ with erotic partners and facilitators in their immediate, changing and real-time location.

It provides the members with direct access to all imaginable erotic resources near them, and thus with a complete integrative, personalized and interactive “Passion Map” of their current location.

PinPointsX®’s personal interactive “Passion Map” allows the user to filter, prioritize, schedule and directly interact with those sensual resources, leading towards the ultimate fantasy and potential hook-up.

What Do We Provide

PinPointsX® Ltd‘s unique business-model and technology extends and out-reaches all members of the romantic, sensual or erotic scene.

PinPointsX® was conceptualized in order to overcome the challenges of having a fling:

• Opportunity – finding a person or a party that is looking for sensual experience and are available for a fling
• Compatibility – having the relevant people who match a user’s preferences and whose desires are compatible with the user’s
• Facilitation – finding the right place to meet and interact

Using location aware, mobile, and innovative propriety technologies, we overcome these challenges.

So, what are you waiting for? Isn’t it time for you to access your personal passion map?

Pornography – What is It and Is It For You?

There is much that is said about pornography, both positive and negative – mainly depending on who you talk to and their perspective.

Where do many people get their perspective on porn? The most common places are:

• Classmates/peers or Friends
• Mother, Father or Siblings
• Mentors, Teachers, Coaches or Counselors
• Clergy or your religion
• Media or TV
• Uncles, Aunts or Other relatives

Anyone that you spend time with could be where you got your perspective about porn, whether it’s good or bad. That is especially true with most religious clergy. Family members and friends can have an interesting impact on our thoughts and people who have a supervisory relationship with us can definitely change or form our opinions – like teachers, coaches or mentors.

Where did you learn about porn?

• High school and/or college locker room
• A friend’s house
• Corner drug store that sells a wide variety of magazines
• A video store that carries adult movies
• Online – through porn sites, ads, emails, forums, etc
• You may have heard in a family discussion
• Your parents or another relative may have a collection
• Older sibling – usually an older brother
• Cable or pay TV options

I remember the first time I opened a Playboy magazine – it was at my aunt and uncle’s house and I was babysitting my cousin, so I had the run of the house while they were out. My uncle had a big collection in the attic bedroom and that was my room whenever I watched my cousin overnight for them. Of course I’d heard hushed tones of family members and religious family friends that Playboy was the “devils work”. I was a kid, what did I know J But that does support the fact that many of us got our first impressions from family and religion.

Centuries ago – fine art often included nude men and women. If you look really close, they are often doing a variety of things, of course, that depends on where you see the art. But its still interesting that in other countries, there is fine art, statues, and other respected pieces of art which feature nude bodies.

However, nude or nearly nude bodies in movies and pictures are viewed as being bad in the United States. That often depends on the type of people you are around. I’ll share more about my experiences in a video store that rented and sold porn in another post, but I can tell you that we had a wide variety of people who rented and bought our movies. There were men, women, single and married people, some were very religious and they usually wandered around the store until the other people left. But they still rented porn on a regular basis. So – porn can be viewed by both genders, various relationship statuses, various religious viewpoints and many other variables.

Pornography or Erotica

Here is an interesting definition of erotica – Erotica has an interactive definition in that its meaning directly relates with who makes the classification. To be delineated as erotic it must be by the viewer’s standards an acceptable depiction of the acts of love and sex. So, the distinction is subjective and depends on the viewer.

Erotica is very popular with many women – along with movies and books that could easily be called soft porn. This can include novels, short stories, movies with erotic content (often Unrated) and sometimes soap operas push the limits – although the sheets are placed strategically. On the other hand, if a man read or watched the same thing, would many people automatically classify it as porn? I’ve got news for you – women watch porn and they have been watching it for a long time.

In recent years, there have been porn movies that are geared to women – and these can be just as graphic as the movies that men enjoy. But you will often see some differences. If you would like details about that – you should read Porn by Erika Lust. It’s a great book about women and porn – it also gives a great history of porn that many men would enjoy. My review is posted here – http://shedyourinhibitions.com/2010/07/30/book-review-good-porn-by-erika-lust/

So – how do you personal draw the line between erotica and porn? How do you feel about these movies or the books and how did you develop that viewpoint?

We’ll discuss more about pornography in future posts. If you would like to check into an online course that delves into the history or porn, details about porn, ways to use porn to spice up your love life and much more, check http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/ShortCourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=53&a_aid=litekepr

Reasons to Have a Threesomes – Some Things to Consider First

Seems to me that every man I’ve ever had an intimate conversation with – has mentioned or strongly suggested that he’d like to participate in a threesome. Actually, some men that I didn’t want to have an intimate conversation with have said the same thing – but that’s a topic for another time.

So – it seems that men are fascinated with group sex, in particular, sex with two or more women at a time.  I have noticed they aren’t as interested in sex with a man and a woman – although sometimes they are – just not as often and some men say emphatically, no to sex with another man in the room.

Technically group sex includes sex with 3, 4, 5, or more people. There are more mouths, more hands, more arms, more legs – but there is also more need to communicate, more need to for coordination, more feelings, more baggage….  Not to bring you down, but there are many things to consider about group sex.

Let’s start at the beginning, these are some of the reasons to add another person or more people:

• To get more attention
• The opportunity to show off your skills
• Experiment with bisexuality
• Simply for some variety
• As a way to get variety without the need to lie or cheat
• Because you’re curious
• Be a voyeur and watch someone please your partner
• The chance to learn new skills
• Get past the usual social programming
• Explore and learn more about yourself
• Experiment with new sexual activities
• Learn new ways to love and please your partner
• Live out a fantasy

Society, friends, family, religion and other outside forces may say group sex is wrong, but honestly, if you’re an adult, every one is a consenting adult and no one gets hurt, you can do what you want.

One of the biggest issues I’ve noticed when talking to people about group sex – is their fear. This can be jealousy, insecurity for a variety of reasons, feel that its wrong, uncomfortable because it pushes their personal sexual boundaries.

No matter how great the fantasy, you need to have an honest conversation with your partner before you approach someone about joining you. Neither person should ever agree just to please the other – any sexual act you participate in, should be done because you want to do it. Threesomes and group sex definitely fall into that category.

A relationship can be ruined for many reasons, but group sex can definitely be a contributing factor. Here is a scenario – a couple had talked since the time they dated about having another woman have sex with them. The man wanted to be with two women and to watch them together. The woman was bi-curious and wanted to be with a woman and it was less pressure to do it with her husband. They finally found a woman and asked her to spend the night with them. The husband and wife were both friends with the other woman and she didn’t know it, but the wife had a crush on her.

So, they felt they discussed all the important things before hand and they got together several times to test the physical boundaries and everything seemed fine.   Then the night came and the eventually went to the bedroom. They were a little awkward at first, but everyone loosened up and there was plenty of kissing, fondling, hands and mouths roaming from person to person, things seemed to be going fine.

The husband and wife had intercourse and the wife clearly wanted to leave the other woman out. So, she stayed to the side. The wife got up and left the room a little later. When she returned, the husband had his arm around the other woman, talking to her. Nothing sexual was going on, although they were nude, but the wife abruptly decided it was time for everyone to get out of bed.

The three of them were together one more time after that. Shortly, each of the relationships deteriorated, and the couple eventually divorced. This couple had talked about a threesome for years, but still weren’t ready for the emotional repercussions.

These are a few of the negative reasons to participate in a threesome – are any of these the reason why you would be in a threesome? If so, you really should reconsider.

• Win back a partner
• Please a partner
• Hurt a partner
• Fear of intimacy
• Fear of commitment
• Want the rush of being in a new relationship

So – if you are one of the men or women who fantasizes about being in a threesome, or foursome or any other configuration of group sex, why do you want to have sex with multiple people at once and what would you do to prepare yourself and your partner? Or, would you be the other man or other woman in the scenario? If you would be joining a couple, what should you do before agreeing to join in?

If you would like to learn much more about group sex, check back for more articles or you can simply enter your email in the top right corner to subscribe to my blog. You can also check out the Group Sex course at Loveology University – http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/ShortCourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=62&a_aid=litekepr

Ultimate Summer Sex Toy – Add Ice to Your Lovemaking

The Ultimate Summer Sex Toy

By Mitzi Rae (www.shedyourinhibitions.com)

Summer is officially here and the temperature at my house is creeping closer to 100 this afternoon – so my mind is thinking of ways to stay cool. But, we all know that really good sex is often hot and steamy, so how can you integrate the ideas of staying cool and still keeping the sex hot and steamy? My recommendation would be to incorporate ice cubes into your love making. If you haven’t tried it – you really should. Ice cubes are one of the simplest homemade sex toys you may ever use.

The first time a partner used ice cubes with me was after a company banquet and I’d had way too much to drink, so my senses were definitely dulled. But I still enjoyed it very much. When I tried using ice with a partner – without being drunk, I enjoyed it even more

There are many things you can do with ice with your partner to cool things up – while spicing them up. Here are some suggestions and I welcome your comments about other ideas. You know that I’m always looking for good ideas.

Master Sexpert Tips – Before we get started

• Go to the kitchen and get a bowl and fill it up with ice cubes – if you have fancy ice trays, that’s fine too, but they are going to melt quickly, so fancy shapes will only make a first impression.
• I would recommend getting comfortable in a place that can get wet – the ice is going to melt. Or, get a couple of fluffy beach towels or a blanket to lie on.
• A couple of smaller fluffy towels would be useful too – just put them off to the side until you need them.
• If you have air conditioning or fans, definitely turn them on and I enjoy a breeze blowing through an open window too – you know how good it feels to have air blow across your wet body

Master Sexpert Tips to Turn Your Lover On While You Cool Them Off

Okay – we’ve got your supplies together, now let’s get busy.

• Let’s start things a little subtle. When its hot – inside or outside, every inch of your body is hot and wants to cool down.  What spots on your lovers body would you touch with your fingers? Their face, neck, arm, chest, leg, thigh…. Put a piece of ice in your hand and touch all those places with the ice, to keep their interest – slide the ice over their skin from one point to the next. If you want – you slide the ice over their skin and come behind the ice and lick it off. Or, simply let the air hit the wet trail you left.
• Do you and your partner enjoy playing with feet? Then definitely incorporate ice in the time while you’re playing with your partner’s feet.  This can include running the ice over the sole of your feet, around the edges of your feet and around your toes if you want. Have fun with it.
• I don’t know about you – but my head and neck sweat very bad when I’m hot. So, you may want to cool your partner down by running the ice cube along the upper edge of their forehead, and especially on the back of their neck at the base of their hair. If you do this on the forehead, its likely the melted ice will run into their eyes – keep that spare towel handy or lick it off for them…
• Pick a piece of ice that will easily fit in your mouth and think of all the places on your lover’s body that you’d like to kiss. You guessed it – kiss them (sure it will take some imagination) on all of those places, with the ice in your mouth.  This is great in places like their ear lobe, their neck, their chest, their thighs… you can use your imagination. You may or may not want to have your partner close their eyes or maybe use a blindfold – the anticipation of what you will do next can heighten the sensations.
• Find another piece of ice that will fit in your mouth – and kiss your partner, if you’re really creative, pass the piece of ice back and forth to each other. As you do this, the ice cube will get smaller and smaller. Any sort of tongue play that you want to do with your partner with the ice cube, is encouraged. You can enjoy playing with each other with the ice and also the warm and cold areas of your mouth as you play.
• One or both of you can pick up a piece of ice and use it on each other’s breasts – circle the breast, run the ice under the woman’s breast, work your way to the nipple, tease the nipples and watch them getting harder and larger as your play and after a sufficient amount of anticipation, rub the ice cube over the nipples – then it’s wonderful to suck and lick the water off. This can work on either partner, depending on the sensitivity of your nipples, although women may enjoy it more. But don’t ignore his nipples – some men have very sensitive nipples, so never ignore them. If you decide to do this with each other, you can sit facing each other – this will let you tantalize each other while you are being turned on.
• Do you enjoy mammary sex? If so – that can be a great follow up to the last idea. Let your man play with your breasts with the ice and get them good and wet, then have him move closer so that he can slide his penis between your breasts. You can push your breasts together to heighten the sensation for both of you – or you may choose to lower your mouth to take his penis into your mouth while he slides between your breasts.
• Use ice cubes with oral sex. This works for men or women, but a quick warning for women – if you are really sensitive, you should have your partner go down on your while you keep your underpants on. If you can tolerate the cold, your partner can take them off – with their hands or teeth, we’ll leave that up to you J Whether your partner is a man or a woman – you can alternate your mouth and your hands, with or without the ice. You can use your mouth on your partner and use ice in your hands or put the ice in your mouth while giving your partner oral sex. Get creative and watch your partner’s reactions – or ask which they like better and do that again. Remember that a combination of cool mouth, warm mouth, warm hand and hand with ice – variety is stimulating and anticipating what you will do next.
• How could I forget – whether you use the ice during oral sex with your woman or not — consider sliding a piece or two inside her before you have sex with her – it will provide a cool sensation in contrast to her warm body. This will give her a cool sensation along with her man’s penis inside of her or if you want to play with a favorite sex toy with her.
• Bottom line – get creative. You can use a piece of ice in any number of ways and places with your lover — the most important thing to remember, have fun!

Those are my ideas – what do you recommend?

How to Get Started Having Phone Sex

Hercules, the Pleasure Coach (http://www.facebook.com/pages/Los-Angeles-CA/The-Pleasure-Coach/214880930955)  shared this article on Facebook and I had to share it here. 

For more information about Phone Sex – click here for my article on some of the hows and whys of phone sex.

Phone Sex For Beginners

 

Phone sex is all about having a sexy conversation with your man. It’s also known as “tandem” masturbation because you’re fondling yourself while talking to him and he’s doing the same thing. Phone sex can be a challenge if you’re not used to masturbating with someone listening to your moans, or if you’re not used to talking dirty.

Let’s suppose, one night, while you’re talking on the phone with your boyfriend, your inner bad girl whispers a suggestion in your ear, “have phone sex with him”. How do you go about instigating sex on the phone? Here are some tips to help you out…

Open Up Sexually

You must slowly open up your sexual side to the man you love. Always worrying about acting slutty will get you nowhere near the girl who can talk dirty on the phone. If you trust your man, and you know that he will never change if you acted “out of character”, don’t be scared to drop F-bombs if he enjoys that. Being shy doesn’t mean you cannot learn how to talk dirty. Start with the words that you can say without cringing.

Gradually open yourself to sexy talk. Phone sex is the perfect opportunity to open your sexuality. You’re providing yourself a sexual outlet, and he gets to listen to your erotic fantasies.

Fantasize

Fantasies are just dreams until you act on them. Because it’s impossible for your man to do erotic stuff with you on the phone, you should talk to him about your fantasies and what you want him to do to you when you meet up.

One good way to do this is to think of “what if” scenarios. Talk about what you would be doing if he were beside you at that moment. If you’ve attended some gatherings with him (high school reunion, your cousin’s wedding, etc.), why not use those events during phone sex.

Men Are Visual

Your man needs to know what you’re wearing, what you’re holding and where you are to feel aroused. He might even ask about the other people in your house to check if they’re out of sight. Most men need to know these things so that they can put everything in perspective.

Even if you’re wearing your dorkiest pyjamas, tell him you’re wearing nighties, red ones. Nighties are easier to remove than pyjamas, so he gets hotter thinking he can “remove” your clothes easily.

Report Your Actions

You know he’s getting hot when he starts asking you to do things like touching your breasts, your thighs and your vagina. Indulge his needs, and do other things to excite yourself more.

Tell him he’s making you horny and you’re now touching yourself with your dildo. Responding to his teasing by acting like you “can’t help” but follow his orders.

Moan When You’re Near Orgasm

When you’re getting closer to orgasm, be more expressive. Tell him you’re feeling really hot and you’re almost there. Scream when you climax so that he can climax with you. If you reach orgasm first, keep moaning to goad him on.

You can tease him by describing how wet you are at that moment, and how you really want his dick inside you. This kind of talk will turn him on and make his orgasm more intense.

Take just a minute to check out ‘Blow His Mind Tonight’: “What Your Man Secretly Wishes You Knew About Oral Sex… But Will Never, Ever Tell You To Your Face!”

This article was originally posted at: http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/sex-intimacy/sex-tips-advice/phone-sex-for-beginners/

For more information about Phone Sex – click here for my article on some of the hows and whys of phone sex.

Take Your Relationship to a New Level of Intimacy through Couples Enrichment

I have taken a lot of courses through Loveology University – but one of my favorite was on Intimacy in your relationship. One reason is because having true intimacy in your relationship really does take you and your partner to a whole different level of closeness. Another reason is because so few couples seem to have real intimacy – I’m not talking about just having sex – intimacy is much more than that.

These are  a couple of the reasons why I really enjoyed the course on Couples Enrichment. It includes information about the foundation and cornerstones of a great and lasting relationship. These include:

Topics to Lay the Foundation For Your Relationship

• Communication
• Kissing
• Love

Topics As the Relationship Deepens

• Seduction
• Intimacy
• Erotic Massage
• Sexual Fantasies
• Erotic Talk
• Pleasing a Man
• Pleasing a Woman
• Oral Sex
• Sexual Positions
• Tantric Sex
• Orgasm

Each of these are topics that will deepen and strengthen your relationship and contribute to the level of true intimacy and satisfaction for you and your partner.

What Enrichment Means -

• An improvement in communication, intimacy and sexuality.
• It has all the ingredients of true love; friendship, respect, trust, communication and passion

The Key Ingredients to a Deeper and More Loving Relationship

• Friendship
• Respect
• Trust
• Communication
• Passion
• Foregiveness

One exercise in this course includes these 3 questions. How would you answer these questions?

1. List 3 strengths in your relationships
2. List 3 weaknesses in your relationships
3. What can you do to be more in love with one another?

There are many short exercises which give you and your partner the opportunity to look deeper into your relationship and find ways to be closer. Many couples will never have the kind of true intimacy that will elevate their relationship to a much higher and more satisfying level. It does take effort, but isn’t your most important relationship worth the effort? This is a very small sample of the information contained in this course. This course is great for new relationships and it is also great for long term relationships that need a boost. Would you like to get that initial passion and closeness back that you and your partner had in the beginning? This course is for you

For more information, visit http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/ShortCourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=37

Loveology University also offers individual courses on each of the topics in this course – in much more detail. The complete list of courses, including the Certified Romantic course is located here – http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/CourseCatalogue.aspx

This Course Is For You If:

• You want to Re-ignite the Hot Passion in Your Relationship
• You want to Win the Undying Love and Devotion of Your Partner
• You want to Make Love Longer Than You Ever Believed Possible
• You want to Discover the Rewards of Intimacy with Sex

Welcome to Loveology University’s Couples Enrichment Certification Course. Inside are exercises guaranteed to improve your communication, enhance your love life and expand your sexual horizon. When a couple has been together for any length of time, they often take each other for granted so this course will help you to fall back in love again. Beginning with the forgiveness process if there is any resentment or animosity pending, followed by praising each other and giving compliments to restore the foundation your relationship was built on. Touching is a big part of this course so you’ll learn the various kinds of touches ranging from healing, romantic, seductive, sexual to erotic. As the course progresses, the exercises become more intense and exciting with mutual masturbation, erotic talk, sensual massage, oral sex, sexual positions all resulting in multiple orgasm for both of you.

Course Price: $69.95 (Includes Video)

For more information, visit http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/ShortCourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=37

Cougars and Cubs – How Do You Define It

I did a post some time ago that showed the common definitions of Cougars. These are the ways many people define a Cougar -

Definition #1

An older woman who frequents clubs in order to score with a much younger man. The cougar can be anyone from an overly surgically altered wind tunnel victim, to an absolute sad and bloated old horn-meister, to a real hottie or milf. Cougars are gaining in popularity — particularly the true hotties — as young men find not only a sexual high, but many times a chick with her shit together.

That cougar I met last night, showed me shit I didn’t know existed, I’m goin back for more.

Definition #2

A 35+ year old female who is on the “hunt” for a much younger, energetic, willing-to-do-anything male. The cougar can frequently be seen in a padded bra, cleavage exposed, propped up against a swanky bar in San Francisco (or other cities)waiting, watching, calculating; gearing up to sink her claws into an innocent young and strapping buck who happens to cross her path. “Man is cougar’s number one prey”

Millions of them. More famously, Demi and Ashton, Naomi Watts and Heath Ledger, Joan Collins and her hubby, Cameron and Justin, Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins

Definition #3

An attractive woman in her 30’s or 40’s who is on the hunt once again. She may be found in the usual hunting grounds: nightclubs, bars, beaches, etc. She will not play the usual B.S. games that women in their early twenties participate in. End state, she will be going for the kill, just like you. Associated with milfs

I bagged a cougar last night at the club.

Definition #4

A woman in her sexual prime who prefers to hunt rather than be hunted. A cougar’s victims are usually under 25, as cougars prefer to mate with men who still have hair. Cougars generally feed and then continue hunting, as they enjoy role reversal.

Definition #5

A Cougar is a female, usually between thirty and fifty years-old, who enjoys the sexual company of younger men.

Cougars are only usually interested in men under the age of twenty-five. Also, Cougars are non-committal, choosing to move from mate to mate without ever settling down. It is not uncommon for the same Cougar to attack (sleep with) many different men in the same group of friends. Furthermore, Cougars are older and more practiced in the ways of snaring a mate so they will rarely broadcast their intentions to sleep with you until you are already in her Jetta, headed for the condo she just bought. It is this elusive behavior that earns her the name “Cougar.”

“Hey Jerry, I’m about to go buy this girl a drink, want to come along? I think she has a friend next to her”

“Naw, theres a cougar in the corner that seems to be stalking me, I’m going to hold out for her”

Definition #6

Coo-gher. An older woman who’s primary interest lies in bedding younger men. Often, but not necessarily, with money; cougars are the more aggressive variety of the commonly used term: milf.

I think that cougar just grabbed my ass!

Definition #7

Hot and sexy older woman, usually in her 40s or 50s, single or married, who is sick of her same-age counterparts which are usually hairless, have big guts, who only talk about their insurance premiums and have the TV remote control attached to their hands. Cougars are attractive, in their sexual prime, who know what they want and aren’t afraid to go after it. BIG misconception is that they dress cheap, wear hot pink nail polish, animal skin prints and are not-so-attractive old-looking hags with bleached hair (Yeah those women exist, but they are NOT cougars). True cougars are classy, beautiful creatures who have made their successes on their own, have real brains, usually with expensive cars/homes, and are real head turners. Cougars seek younger men, and don’t have to sneak up and attack…they know their younger mates are eager to get an experienced woman who won’t ask if they’ll call them the next day. Being a cougar is a positive thing.

20-something girl: “oh no, that cougar just left with Jeff and I’ve been trying to get him to ask me out for the past three months”.

Okay – so here’s my thoughts —–

I have dated my share of younger men over the years, and have a number of good friends who are younger men and we get along great.  Guys my age often have at least one ex wife, several kids which means they are tied to the ex wife and many have very negative viewpoints of women because of the exs. Where as younger men don’t have all that baggage and are eager to please their woman and definitely willing to try new things. All fine qualities

But to be a Cougar – does a woman have to be “on the prowl” for sex and not be interested in a serious and/or long term relationship? I hadn’t really thought about that in depth until I met a new guy a couple of weeks ago. Yes, I met him on a Cougar website.

We’ve talked extensively and he says that he’s looking for a Cougar – but he wants a long term relationship. So – is he simply looking for an older woman or a Cougar? I think he’s simply looking for an older woman. You may say that depends on why he wants an older woman. That would be because of the drama and the immaturity that he’s found in the younger women and women his age that he’s dated in the past — his words, not mine

So — if an “older woman” and a “younger man” are both looking for a mature long term relationship – are they a cougar and a cub?

Any cougar/cub or older woman/younger man stories you would like to share?

The Top Qualities Needed to Please Your Man

Men are well known as being very visual, so the way a woman looks is important to them, but they also want their lovers to have certain qualities that are even more important than their looks. Here are the top 12 qualities men want in their partner. How many do you have? If your answer is yes to only a few, this e-book will help you to develop the others. After all, everyone knows how to have sex because it’s a basic instinct, but making love is an art you can learn; this includes learning to release the sexpot inside you, learning to enjoy your sexuality and learning to please your lover.

1. Women who communicate openly
2. Women who take the initiative
3. Adventuresome women
4. Affectionate women
5. Women who create romantic memories
6. Women who are uninhibited
7. Women who wear sexy lingerie
8. Women who are responsive
9. Women who enjoy erotic dialogue
10. Women who show their appreciation
11. Women with a good sense of humor
12. Easy-going women

So – do you agree with this list? If not – what do you consider the top qualities that you want in your female partner?

This is an excerpt from the Loveologist Guide to Cheating by Dr Ava Cadell- it is packed with details about cheating and also many ways to please your man or please your woman and ways to improve your relationship – to recover from cheating or to prevent the desire to cheat.

For more details about this ebook and to get your copy, visit http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/DrAvaPages/luguide-cheating.html

The Top Qualities Needed to Please Your Woman

Sex is an art that requires awareness and knowledge of a woman’s needs and desires. I will share just what it takes to please a woman in every way possible and will give you the basic tools to acquire more information about women and what they want in bed. Listed are many things that a woman wants in a lover, some which coincide with what men also appreciate while others specifically target the needs of a female.

• Men who communicate openly

• Men who take initiative

• Men who can provide undivided attention

• Creative and inquiring men

• Sexually, emotionally, and mentally intimate men

• Men who care about their appearance from their clothing to their cologne

• Men who can read a women’s desired communication style (i.e. verbal or visual)

• Men who find pleasure in satisfying their woman

• Confident and courageous men

• Men who know the art of kissing and the techniques of foreplay

• Men who know exactly where a woman’s erogenous zones are located

• Men with the ability to control their ejaculation to lengthen their love making

• Men willing to provide a sensual massage without any agenda

• Men who know how to give positive feedback as well as receive it

• Men who enjoy giving women what they want in bed as much as what they want outside of it.

So – do you agree with this list? If not – what do you consider the top qualities that you want in your female partner?

This is an excerpt from the Loveologist Guide to Cheating by Dr Ava Cadell- it is packed with details about cheating and also many ways to please your man or please your woman and ways to improve your relationship – to recover from cheating or to prevent the desire to cheat.

For more details about this ebook and to get your copy – http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/DrAvaPages/luguide-cheating.html