Sex toys and fun

A happy sex life is one of the joys of human life, and it’s a always a good idea to explore new possibilities. Happiness is good for people, and sex also provides a lot of positive hormonal effects which reduce stress and improve quality of life. Things like sex toys can add dimensions and be a lot of fun.

Shopping for sex toys

This can be a bewildering experience for those not used to it. It’s worth taking a structured approach to your shopping, because in-store shopping can be distracting. It’s much better to start your shopping online, so you can get oriented to the range of products and develop your ideas without the “impulse buying” effect getting in the way.

Shopping for toys is actually pretty simple, but you need to be able to navigate the products so you can really explore. The best approach is to shop by category. That means you can concentrate on specific things and keep the “kid in candy store” element under some sort of control:

Categories of sex toys include:

• Dolls
• Sex aids like vibrators
• Adult games
• Novelties
• DVDs
• Books and magazines

The first thing you’ll notice is that there are a lot of things you haven’t seen before. Even if you’re an experienced shopper, it’s always a good idea to check out the New Products links, because there’s always a lot of new things coming on the market.

Some of these things are mind blowing. The new American “companion” robot dolls, for example, are so new that they’re getting a lot of media attention.  Japanese sex toys are equally extraordinary, and talk about exploring, these are effectively whole new sexual concepts in several ways.

The adult games are also something else. They’re usually developed by people having a particular kind of creative streak, and a famous game like Monogamy is worth a look. Novelties, on the other hand, can include things like Kama Sutra pasta, and if you weren’t aware that pasta can make its own fun, this is a true eye opener.

Note: These things are sometimes only distributed through certain outlets, so if you find something really unique, you can also buy online. Shopping online is useful when you see something interesting that’s obviously not available elsewhere.

Real fun- Exploring your own tastes

Shopping as a couple, particularly online, is often a great idea. Two sets of eyes tend to be a lot more efficient in this sort of shopping, because two sets of personal tastes are involved, and the different areas of interest can find a lot more of interest, much faster.

Don’t be too surprised if even this type of shopping gets a lot more interesting where you live, too. Just shopping can lead to a lot of fun. Variety and novelty are always good, because they create new situations, and new perspectives. Sex toy shopping tends to lead to a lot of new ideas and more fun.

Shop, explore, and enjoy!

Would you like some sex toy suggestions, tips and recommendations? Check out my review page for a wide variety of toys – http://shedyourinhibitions.com/reviews-by-mitzi/

3 Things to Consider Before Making the Decision to Swing

The top 3 things to consider before you decide to swing

Number 1 – Why are you doing it?

What is the main motivation behind wanting to have a threesome, foursome or moresome with your partner?  Is it just to experience something new with them, to evolve your relationship and do something awesome together?  Are you trying to fill a need that isn’t being met by your relationship?  Or is this your way of being able to have your cake and eat it to; meaning you absolutely love your partner but occasionally want to play with someone else for the fun of it?

Now none of those reasons are bad and are the typical reasons why other couples enter the lifestyle.  The important thing is knowing why you want to get into it and why your partner wants to get into it, and then sharing that information with each other.  This conversation in itself may highlight potential issues, but once they are out in the open, you can discuss whether or not swinging will become a healthy answer for you.  And if not, then you can seek some help to get your relationship in a better space to be able to.

Number 2 – What are your boundaries?

This is all about what you are comfortable with and what you’re not.  This is another conversation you need to have before you hit the playground since many couples have different boundaries.  The most important thing here is to really listen to each other, and to commit to playing within the boundaries of the person who has the most.

The transition from traditional to swinger can be a very vulnerable one because you are changing the rules in your relationship.  So this is the time where you really need to do whatever it takes to make sure your partner still feels loved, and that they know they are always your number one.

The good news is that over time the boundaries often relax and it gets a whole lot easier and less worrying.  I know in the beginning I was constantly checking in with my husband to make sure he was ok, being that he had the most boundaries and we weren’t sure how we were going to feel once we got into the situation and seeing the other with someone else.  As it turned out, it was a complete turn on for both of us (like many others) but you really won’t know for sure until you’re in that situation.

Number 3 – Do your research; get educated!

Find out what you can expect in the scene or in the clubs you may want to visit.  Read articles about swinging so you can be properly informed about the pro’s and con’s, and read other people’s blogs to get an idea of what you might want to try, what “stuff” came up for them and how they dealt with it.  I have a small list on my site but you an Google for those; there are literally hundreds!

Find out as much as you need to know to feel comfortable with what you’re doing and who you are doing it with, then take your time to decide who the lucky someone’s are, or what clubs or events you decide to attend.  There are unlimited options and a lot of fun to be had.

The more educated you are, the less mistakes you will make and if you value your relationship, and truly want this to supercharge your sex-life while creating a stronger bond between the 2 of you, then you’ll do what it takes to keep it safe and solid.  This was the main reason I started writing about swinging and created the book in the first place!

Swinging absolutely has the potential to take your relationship to a whole new level of depth and connection if you have the right foundation, and having conversations like these are a great starting point.  We’ve had heaps of fun, lots of passionate nights and our relationship has never been as strong and our sex life has been the envy of many other married couples…

Shall we see you on the swinging playground sometime soon?

Chantelle Austin, Author of “The Essential Guide for Adventurous Couples” and Relationship Coach for people and relationships that are outside the square.  When it comes to relationships, swinging, sex and sexuality, nothing is swept under the rug!  Check out www.chantelleaustin.com for more articles, her book, relationship solutions and to ask her questions using Ask Chantelle. Link to the book is http://www.chantelleaustin.com/essential-guide

Online Dating Not for You – Here Are Some Alternatives

There are many ways to meet new people and the internet is certainly a great way – but meeting people for a possible relationship on the Internet is not for everyone. For many people looking for love, Internet dating is an acceptable medium to find that special someone in recent years. Personal experiences differ drastically, from falling in love and getting married to their Internet friend to absolute disaster dates and people misrepresenting who they are. Just like every form of dating, there are bound to be both mishaps and success stories. If Internet dating is not your style, one of these alternatives may be a better fit.

Speed Dating

Speed dating occurs at singles events in which an even number of people sign up to participate. Each pair of singles is given roughly five minutes to get to know each other, usually until everyone has met. The benefits of this method of dating is that it’s easy to meet a lot of eligible singles in a short period of time who are all more or less looking for the same thing – a relationship. The drawback is that five minutes really isn’t enough time to get to know someone, and you may end up going on several dates as a result of the event that all end up going nowhere.

Professional Matchmaking

If you choose to go the matchmaking route, you will go through an interview process with a professional who will ask you a variety of questions about your interests, values, goals, pet peeves, turn-ons, and what you’re looking for in a partner. Then, based on your answers, your matchmaker will analyze his or her existing database of singles to find a few possible matches for you. Matchmaking is a great route for those who want to remain more anonymous, or those who prefer individualized attention. However, matchmaking is more expensive than other methods, and it can take weeks before even going on a first date, let alone find the right person.

Blind Dates

In movies and TV shows, blind dates are always depicted as being embarrassing, horrible, or just plain weird. However, blind dating is like having a matchmaking amateur, i.e. someone that knows you and loves you, set you up on a date with someone that they think would be a good fit. The plus with blind dating is that you know you won’t be set up with a creep, and someone close to you will be able to vouch for them. A potential downfall is that the date could go badly, possibly jeopardizing the relationship with your date and your friend or family member.

Bars and Night Clubs

Probably the most typical situation to meet someone is in a bar or nightclub. Everyone is looking their best, and many are hopeful that they’ll come home with a phone number or two. Though easy to meet people in this type of setting, some are adamantly against dating a man or woman they met at a bar. The benefit of this online dating alternative is that it is organic and relatively easy. A potential pitfall is that many times, people go out just to find a one-night stand or short-term fling.

Singles Cruises

Though not a viable option for everyone, a singles cruise is an interesting way to meet a number of eligible men or women. Everyone is in vacation mode, making them more relaxed, fun to talk to, and open to meeting others. A potential danger with meeting a special someone on a singles cruise is that they might live in another part of the country or world, making a relationship difficult. You may also end up meeting the same type of people that you’ll find in a bar or club that just want to hook up….

Jasmine is a freelance writer and full-time traveler. She is a guest blogger for My Dog Ate My Blog and a writer on accredited online colleges for Guide to Online Schools.

Slow Down Before You Commit (Guest Post)

It takes the average person a mere 1/5th of a second to fall in love, according to a recent international survey. But as many have argued in the past, love at first sight (or lust at first sight in most instances) doesn’t guarantee a long lasting relationship. And before you start to fantasize about the wedding and what your kids will look like, you need to make sure you get to know each other properly before you make any kind of commitment—including exclusivity or marriage—because if you don’t, it can lead to problems in the relationship later on. But how do you know when it’s the best time to move forward or pump the breaks? Below are some common signs to watch out before you decide to make a commitment.

No Mystery. Let it be known that in a healthy relationship, information is revealed gradually over time. The more you trust that person, the more likely you are to tell them your secrets and intimate details about your life. But if your date immediately pours his or her heart out on the first date (revealing everything that there is to know) and demands that you to do the same, this might suggest that he or she is attempting to speed the whole process up by creating a pseudo level of intimacy.

Instant Soulmates. While it is indeed possible to have a strong connection with someone very early on, you should be cautious if your date expresses that the two of you are destined to be together when you know very well you’ve hardly spent any time together.

Mixed Emotions. If you have any level of uncertainty, including feelings of suspicion, self-doubt or anxieties when around your date, then you should really consider evaluating the relationship a bit closer before pursuing it any further. Why do you feel suspicious? Does he or she seem untrustworthy or not the monogamous type?  Why do you feel anxious? Does your date verbally attack you or make you feel bad about yourself? Make sure that you take notice of the early signs—these small details might not seem like a huge issue in the beginning but they can be very damaging once in a committed relationship.

Self-fulfillment.  Some have a tendency to feel “incomplete” if they do not have an exclusive partner.  But if you are part of this group let it be said that while this feeling of “incompleteness” might be the reason you rush into a committed and exclusive relationship, the best relationships occur when both parties are happy with themselves first. So just make sure that if you do decide to commit, it’s not because you are trying to fill a void.

By-line:

This guest post is contributed by Vanessa Jones, who writes on the topics of dating sites.  She welcomes your comments at her email Id: vanessa.jones42@gmail.com

 

Guest Posts

Occasionally I feature guest posts on this blog. If you would like to contribute a guest post, I’ll consider it. The following are the guidelines to consider if you want to write a guest post for this blog.

Quality – I will only publish posts that are quality content and well written.

Original Content – I only accept original content that hasn’t been published elsewhere, and you must agree to not publish it elsewhere. If you have used it somewhere else and I really like it – I can suggest some subtle changes.

Preferred Topics – Nearly all topics related to love, relationship and sex are welcome. It’s always good to check with me first though, to see if what you want to write is something that I think will be a good fit or not. I do ask that you check with me if the content will be extremely graphic in content. If you take a look at my recent posts and most popular posts – you will get a good idea of the kind of content that I post here.

Interviews – I also have a prepared written interview for love, sex and relationship experts. If you would like to participate, download the Love Coach – Interview and send to me at 4mitzirae@gmail.com

Editing – I reserve the right to make minor edits (spelling, grammar, etc.) but I won’t make substantial changes that would be considered a rewrite. If I feel a portion should be rewritten for clarity or some other reason, I will tell you, and give you the option of making whatever changes might be needed. I may, however, break up long paragraphs into shorter ones, or even add a subheading or two for clarity as needed.

Images – Images are always appreciated. If you use images, you must have permission from the copyright holder to do so, and they must be properly attributed and credited.

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Author Bio – An Author Bio is a must. Include one or two sentences letting readers know more about you. This bio will be included after the post.

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Just send any inquiries or potential posts to me at 4mitzirae@gmail.com

Where is My Soul Mate by Dyan Garris (Guest Post)

Where Is My Soul Mate?

Everyone wants their soul mate, right? At least it’s good in theory. What we really want is love. We want to give and receive love.  It seems like such a simple thing – meet someone, fall in love, and live happily ever after.  Yet we so often find relationships to be very challenging and confusing.  Let’s explore some things about soul mates.

The term soul mate is often misunderstood.  We may have many soul mates that are incarnated at the same time we are, not just that one perfect person that we envision is there for us.  And the soul mate (our idea of “soul mate”) isn’t necessarily the one we end up with.  Sometimes soul mates just have an agreement to meet up here at a certain time and work on certain lessons. When the lessons are learned, they may part ways.  However, these lessons may feel very intense because they are with our soul mate, and we definitely have a preconceived idea that we’re supposed to end up together.  That is just not always the case.  So much depends upon what the agreement is and also how it is handled. . . how well we get through the lessons.

We also have some preconceived ideas about who our soul mate is and what their purpose is.  However, it’s important to understand that our soul mate could be anyone from our soul group.  It could be our mother, our father, one of our siblings and even our own child.  It may seem strange, but sometimes it could even be your pet.  A soul mate really is just someone from our soul group. That is why sometimes when you first meet someone you have the inexplicable feeling that you already know them.  You do! They are part of your soul family and there is agreement to play certain roles in each other’s lives. These roles and lessons to be learned are most often for the higher benefit of the group as well as for the individuals.

Timing is another aspect that factors into the soul mate equation.  Sometimes a soul mate will show up at a certain time and the other person just isn’t ready to enter into relationship due to previous free will choices. We do change our lives and what is “supposed” to happen by our gift of free will.  An example of this would be someone you feel a strong attraction to, you absolutely know the person and know you should be together, but that person is married or you are married.  And sometimes, we may have already met our soul mate and not recognized the person as such.  Then we realize it much later, but it’s too late and we can’t go back.

Our soul mate is not the person who shows up to make our lives better or complete us. Our soul mate is the person who shows up after we have already done this for ourselves and they have done it for themselves as well.

Does everyone have a soul mate? Yes, everyone does.  However, this does not mean that your “person” is here at the same time you are.  And our idea of soul mate is so very limited.  Keep in mind that everything, everything is a lesson in love.  Everything always works to the highest good, no matter how it seems or appears.  Here is some advice for those yearning for their soul mate:  Ask, pray, manifest not for the “soul mate,” but for the highest version of your soul that is incarnate at the same time as you.

Dyan Garris has helped many people move forward with her gifts of clairvoyance, clairaudience, and clairsentience. Dyan is an internationally known visionary mystic, voice recognition psychic, and trance channel medium whose specialty is manifestation and teaching people what is missing from the way the law of attraction was taught.  She helps people learn to use the power contained in their chakras to be the best they can be.  She has created a Spiritual Toolbox™ of products that work together for integrative healing. This includes a multiple award nominated CD series with numerous #1 charting songs.  She is the author and artist of Voice of the Angels – A Healing Journey Spiritual Cards and several other books, including the award winning finalist “Money and Manifesting.”  More information, free angel card readings online, and live online psychic readings with real psychics with $5.00 free to all new accounts at www.voiceoftheangels.com.