Review – Add Some Smooth Sensual Loving to Your New Year

Its a new year and time for celebration and fun. Its a time for rebirth and starting over. Have you started or tried anything new with your partner? Its time for some lovin’ and smooth sensual lovin’ is the best.  That’s a reason why I wanted to share my review for Moist Gel. For everyone who wants a smooth, sensual and sexy start to the New Year — its time to show a little self love (masturbate) and to show your partner how much you want to please them. That also means it would be a great time to try Moist Gel – Personal Lubricant.

Some time ago I shared my review for Moist Lubricant – http://shedyourinhibitions.com/2010/05/27/sex-toy-review-moist-personal-lubricant/

The regular Moist Lubricant is very good – but some people may have a concern about it being a thin liquid. The gel form is for people who are looking for a thicker lubricant. This is still very easy to use and spreads great on your hands or other body parts but it is a thicker consistency. You could try both – to see which consistency you prefer. It will likely remind you of a hair gel product when you first feel it.

If you haven’t used a lube before or if you’re looking for suggestions, here are some Master Sexpert Tips

Lube is beneficial for many forms of sexual activity – masturbation, vaginal intercourse, anal sex and flavored lubes are great for oral sex – pick your flavor or choice or try different flavors.  Some lubes are especially made for use in the tub, shower or hot tub.

1. Never use a silicone lube with silicone toys.
2. Always use a water based lube inside a woman’s body
3. Always use a water based lube with condoms – oil and petroleum based lubes should not be used with condoms because it can cause the condom to deteriorate
4. Warming lubes are great for nipple and breast stimulation and can be used on the genitals – however all lubes will help your hands slide over your partner’s body easier and more sensually
5. If you prefer more vigorous sex – definitely use lube to cut down on the friction and to let your partner thrust harder and longer. The lube provides the option to have more rigorous sex without the chafing etc that can happen after rough and/or long lovemaking sessions.
6. Water based lubes are a great choice, they are compatible with all toys and with condoms, it is easy to clean, and it doesn’t stain.
7. You may want to test several types of lubes on your own to see which type and what feel you like better. Then keep it close to your bed, in your glove compartment or purse — depending on where you plan to have sex
8. Moist Gel is thick enough to be used for anal sex
9. The tube is easy to open, easy to get the desired amount of lube out and easy to close.

Visit the Pipedream Products page for Moist Gel – http://www.pipedreamcompanystore.com/showdetail_c.php?Full_Number=PD9716-01

Feel free to share your thoughts and experiences with any of the Moist Lubricants —

Review – Calypso 7 Speed Massager (CalExotics)

As we getting closer to the biggest gift giving time of the year – I’m catching up a bunch of product reviews. Hope you will bear with me and I hope that you get some fun and sexy gift ideas. Over the last year, I’ve tried to share a wide variety of product reviews and if you’d like to see them all, visit my main review page where I post links to all reviews. (http://shedyourinhibitions.com/reviews-by-mitzi)

The latest item I got from CalExotics is the Calypso 7 Speed Massager. The shape and appearance of this item is very unique and how can you go wrong with 7 speeds.  We’re all familiar with the usual vibrators – but there are so many other stimulating options for individuals and couples.

The Calypso has a unique shape which is great to use yourself or with a partner to stimulate just about any erogenous zone for both of you. Remember that you can use toys on any part of the body — don’t just focus on the genital areas. You have erogenous zones all over your body and so does your partner.

One of the first things I noticed about the Calypso is the “soft silicone pleasure nubs” – well I call it the scrubby surface That feels good and stimulating to any part of the body and with the 7 different settings, you can definitely find a setting that feels good for all locations on the body and also easily change it to fit your changing mood and as you become more aroused…..

I did have a little trouble figuring out how to work the controls — but you see the small button on the right side, just push that to change the setting and this was the complicated part – hold down on the button to turn it off. The part shown on the right comes off so you can put the batteries in — it is a very snug fit, but it does slide apart.

Let’s Get Down to the Nitty Gritty with the Master Sexpert Tips -

Always clean your toys thoroughly before and after you play and especially on the “pleasure nubs” – but this one doesn’t appear to be waterproof

If you use the Calypso anywhere near the anus, clean it before playing near the vagina.

Use your imagination and be very creative with this toy. The shape is great for using on your own body or your partner’s – and you can use the side with the nubs, the end or the other side. However you choose to use it – the goal is to stimulate yourself and/or your partner.

• You can use lube with this to help it slide across the body easier – but keep it away from the opening for the batteries.
• You might want to add this to a massage for your partner
• It can also be a great addition to your self love time
• Remember to try the different speeds/pulses to see what feels best to your partner
• When using this on someone else, remember that the “pleasure nubs” will intensify your touch, so pay attention to your partner’s reactions.
• Keep in mind – you and your partner have erogenous zones all over your body — so try them all or simply start moving the Calypso along the skin, across the shoulders and shoulder blades, slide down to run it around and across the breasts, maybe use it to enhance a foot or leg massage, use it to tease her or his perineum  — you get the idea….
• And, last but not least — have fun

Details from the CalExotics Website – Calypso 7 Speed Massager – http://www.calexotics.com/p-23196-dr-laura-berman-calypso-7-function-curved-massager.aspx

Laura Berman, LCSW, PhD has been working as a sex educator and therapist for 20 years, and is considered a leader in her field. Her latest book, “Real Sex for Real Women” is an international Best Seller.

• 7-Function Curved Massager with Silicone Foreplay Arousers
• “Put sexual satisfaction right at your fingertips”
• Velvety smooth and seamless massager angled for the perfect reach
• 7 powerful functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation
• Soft Silicone pleasure nubs
• Easy grip handle
• Easy off button
• 2 AA batteries
• ABS with PU Cote (massager) Silicone (pleasure nubs)
• 6.75”x 1.75”/ 17 cm x 4 cm (overall)
• 3”x 1.25”/ 8 cm x 3 cm (nubbed head)

 

 

Sex Toy Review – Vibrating Nipple Pumps (Pipedream)

I have to admit that my curiosity got the best of me. I wanted to experiment with something different, so I got the Fetish Fantasy Vibrating Nipple Pumps. I have to start by saying that nothing beats the mouth and tongue of a skillful partner – but this is interesting and stimulating. I’ve always been curious about a penis pump — now I have an idea of what they feels like. Although obviously on different body parts But I think its the same basic idea. If anyone has a different thought about that, definitely let me know.

Okay – let me start by telling you that Pipedream has a nice selection of nipple accessories and toys – depending on what you want. To view their full line of Nipple Stimulators and Pumps, click here. There are various kinds and a wide range in prices.

I will share my experimentation and my experience – I also welcome your comments.  Be warned that you will have to figure out how it all works and the picture does help. Here is what I did –

• Take all the pieces out of the box
• There are batteries which you will need to put into the vibrator tips

Master Sexpert Tips

• This is where it gets complicated alone – at least the first time. You need to hold both of the cups against your skin firmly. Holding them with one hand is best because you will need to squeeze the bulb.
• You can wet the skin around your nipples or the edge of the “cup” before placing it against the skin. There is a sample tube of Moist Lubricant (http://shedyourinhibitions.com/2010/05/27/sex-toy-review-moist-personal-lubricant/)  in the box and a sample of sex toy cleaner too.
• Make sure the cup is placed so that it cover the nipple completely and its good to center the nipple
• If you want some vibration, twist the black caps on the vibrator “bullet”
• With the cups placed againt the skin and over your nipples – squeeze the bulb and you should feel the suction and a tug right away. The intensity will vary if cups aren’t placed firmly against the skin.
• Each time you squeeze the bulb, you will increase the pressure and the suction – so you or your partner control the sensations you feel. The more suction you use, the larger your nipples will become.
• Once you have the cups in place and the suction working, you can play with the amount of suction. If you feel the suction or tension lessening, just squeeze the bulb again.
• If you want a different tingle on your nipples, gently tap the black button just beside the bulb you sqeezed. I think it tickles, but don’t press it too far or the cups will come off.
• Play around with the vibration and the suction to see how much you like. Obviously different people will like it different.
• Be sure the cups are centered over your nipple for the best stimulation and this will enlarge your nipples. If the cups aren’t centered, the suction will tug on the skin around your nipples.
• Try this on your male or female partner — remember that many men enjoy nipple stimulation too
• If you do this right — its guaranteed to give you large, hard, perky nipples

If you like the idea of the suction, but prefer to try it on your clitoris, click here for another Fetish Fantasy Series – Vibrating Clit Super Suck Her.

Here is some details from the Pipedream webite -

Nipple Vibrator – http://www.pipedreamcompanystore.com/showdetail_c.php?Full_Number=PD3223-00&DB_Number=

Fetish Fantasy Series
Vibrating Nipple Super Suck-hers

Get your nipples perking with pleasure with the Fetish Fantasy Vibrating Nipple Pumps! Turn on the mini vibrators, place the cupped Nipple Pumps over the nipples and squeeze the medical-style pump ball until the suckers stay in place. The stimulating suction, combined with titillating vibrations, brings on a whole new realm of pleasure possibilities. Just press the quick release button to relieve the pressure and you’re ready for perky fun. Try it in the shower or hot tub and turn bath time into passion time!

Changes in your Sexual and Intimate Relationship Over 60

Recently I was talking to a friend who mentioned that he thinks sex ends over 50. Now, I just turned 45 a couple of weeks ago and that idea is kind of disturbing. So, I posted a message on one of my Facebook pages, to see what my friends thought – it was pretty unanimous that your sex life definitely goes past 50 and that it can keep getting better. I’ve got to say – that’s more like it. For the people who wonder how that can be true, read on for some suggestions.

There will be changes in a person’s life as they get older, there is nothing that can be done about it. One of these is that your sexual relationship is going to change. For some people it is for the better and for others it leaves them wishing for their younger days. The people that seem to enjoy sex more as they get older often find that with the reduction of stress in their life they can get more out of it.

They may find they aren’t exhausted anymore because life has slowed down for them. They may be retired now so the daily grind isn’t causing them to go to bed so tired they can’t even think about sex. They have plenty of time to spend looking and feeling good. This means they can spend more time with their partner.

Many people know that a quality relationship on other levels with your partner leads to better sex. You may find that once you have time to spend with each other on fun activities – you enjoy each other more. It can bring an entirely new level of intimacy to the bedroom for you as well.

Many people over 60 that are retired are able to travel. The excitement of seeing new places with your partner can rejuvenate your sex drive as well. Finding new locations for sex or some intimate time alone, can be quite a turn on. Where you are and what activities you enjoy can also play a role in that.

But, let’s be honest, not everyone will have an increase in their sexual behavior as they get older. Some people may want to have sex more often but their body isn’t cooperating. They may find it harder to get or maintain an erection for the act to take place. This can lead to a great deal of embarrassment as well as anxiety.

The body may start to feel older and more worn down too. This can result in a person having less sexual activity than they did before. It can be frustrating when a person isn’t ready to deal with these issues. Sometimes you can get results if you go to a doctor, a therapist, a sexpert or a relationship coach – the one that could help you, depends on the specific problem. Other times you have to come to terms with some changes in your sexual behavior that are simply the result of aging.

Some older individuals become depressed when they find their sexual relationship isn’t what it once was. They may blame themselves for it and need help to cope. Others may become angry at their spouse due to their changed feelings towards sexual activity. It is very important for the relationship to be open enough to discuss such matters.

Dealing with changes in your sexual relationship when you are 60 or older may not be your cup of tea, but you may not have a choice. You may be pleasantly surprised to find that sex gets better for you as you get older. You may also find that the best is behind you. Yet you can still have a good time with it if you are willing to make some adjustments.

Keep in mind that with the help of a sexpert, sex therapist, love coach and/or relationship coach – you can learn ways to help your relationship evolve in order to have a full and satisfying sex life and increased intimacy with your partner, well into your golden years.

Let me know if you’d like to talk about some options – 4mitzirae@gmail.com

 

5 Ways to Improve Intimacy with Your Man

Are you in a long term relationship and do you love your man? Likely you do, but over time you learned that love isn’t always enough to keep a relationship going strong.  Work, kids, the house and so much more gets in the way of your intimate time together. Intimacy is very important to having a strong, happy, and healthy relationship. How do you keep the intimacy and desire burning?

How is your life in the bedroom?  Do you feel your sex and intimacy can be improved?  If so, you may be nervous about discussing the subject with your man.  After all, he may get the wrong impression and think he doesn’t satisfy you anymore.  If you are interested in improving your intimacy with your man, there are still a number of different approaches that you can take.  A few of these approaches are touched on below.

1 – Take the Initiative and Invite Him on a Date

If you have been together for a while, there is a good chance that you haven’t gone out on a date in a while.  Many couples get to a point in their relationship that is called “the comfort zone.”  This zone is not one that you want to be in, as your relationship may feel more like a friendship. Friendship is wonderful, but be sure you also keep the passion alive. A step toward this goal, is to ask your man out on a date.

Although many women believe that their men should do the date asking, you sometimes have to take hold of the situation yourself.  Now may be one of those times.  Choose an activity that is romantic, such as a romantic comedy for a movie or a nice restaurant.  This can help to spark a little bit of romance and passion in your relationship, which may lead to better and closer intimacy at home. Also keep in mind that most men like when their lady takes the initiative…

2 – Show Romantic Gestures

When it comes to “wowing,” in a relationship, women sometimes think that men should do it.  You will also want to “wow,” your man like you did the first time that you met.  One of the easiest ways to do so is by performing a number of romantic gestures.  When out shopping with your man, grab their hand and hold it. While you’re holding his hand, gently stroke his hand with your fingers or thumb or tickle his palm with your fingertip.  When you walk past him in the house, give him a quick kiss or you can reach around and pinch his on the rear end.  Sending a love note to work or send him a sexy text or email during the day – these are simple romantic gestures you may want to try.

3 – Be Sexy and Seductive

If your relationship enters into the comfort zone, sex and intimacy seems like a thing of the past – its time to take the initiative and shake things up.  If you do have sex, it may seem more like a responsibly or even work.  To help reduce these feelings, be sexy and seductive.  Do not wait for your man to initiate sex and do not ask if he’s  up for it first, just get right down to business. Strip for your man or help him remove his clothes.  Snuggle next to him on the couch and start massaging his whole body.  You may be surprised just how easy and effective it is to be sexy and seductive.

Do you have an outfit that he likes a lot? Is there a way that he thinks your hair is sexy? Does he like you to join him in the shower? Is there a CD that has especially sexy songs that you both enjoy? Would he enjoy a game of strip poker? Get creative and show your man that you want him – he’ll love it and love you for taking the initiative.

4 – Be Spontaneous

As I said above, do not ask your man if he wants to have sex and do not wait for him to start.  Instead, take matters into your own hands- literally if necessary.  Whether you start with a little bit of foreplay or jump right into the intercourse, just do it. Your man should like the surprise.  Remember that being spontaneous involves having sex at different times of the day, as well as in different locations of the house.

5 – Offer to Experiment In the Bedroom

To improve sex and intimacy it is important to know that a change can do you good.  You may want to suggest to your partner that you experiment in the bedroom or take them up on their suggestion to try something different.  Remember that experimenting in the bedroom doesn’t have to mean getting an additional sex partner or doing something that makes you feel uncomfortable.  A new sex position may be just what your relationship needs. Maybe you want to buy some flavored lube to play with or maybe you want to buy some sexy lingerie. You can start slowly if that makes you feel better – but try something different.

As you can see, there are a number of easy ways that you can go about improving your intimacy with your husband.  So what are you waiting for?  Get started today.

Do you need help planning how to improve or to spice up your relationship? Contact me about an initial love coaching consultation to see how I can help you take your relationship to a more passionate, intimate and satisfying level. You can contact me at 4mitzirae@gmail.com

4 Ways to Improve Intimacy with Your Woman

Are you in a committed relationship?  If so, you likely love your woman, right?  Despite a deep and intense love for her, you may want to see an improvement in your intimacy.  After all, what man doesn’t want good sex? 

If you want to improve your intimacy with your woman, it is important to know that you have a number of different options.  Unfortunately, when many men think of intimacy, they automatically start thinking of the bedroom. Sure you want to “wow,” her in the bedroom, but that is not all there is to sex and intimacy.  In fact, that is where many relationships go wrong.  Too much focus is placed on the sex or the lack of it. 

To help you properly improve your intimacy with your woman, I’ll share some tips to improve the intimacy in your relationship. These are easy tips to implement and they have been successful for other couple.

1 – Take Her on a Date

How long have you been together?  If you have been together for a number of years, do you honestly remember when you had your last “real” date.  Unfortunately, many men underestimate the power of a date. You do not want to make this mistake.  If you opt just for the sex, your wife/girlfriend may start to feel like it is her responsibility to please you and this is not how a relationship should work.

To not only improve your satisfaction in the bed, but to improve her satisfaction, take her out on a date.  Many times, getting out of the house is enough to bring new excitement into a relationship.  For the best level of success, choose a romantic date theme, such as a fancy dinner, a romantic movie, or a night at a nice hotel.

2 – Compliment Her

When is the last time that you have paid your woman a truly nice, sincere and unique compliment?  If it has been a while, it is time for you to start again.  Is she wearing a new outfit?  Has she recently started a weight loss plan?  Did she get her hair cut?  If so, be sure to compliment her.  Complimenting her appearance will increase her self-confidence.  This, in turn, can improve your experiences in the bedroom. Never underestimate the passionate power of a self confidence woman who loves you.

As important as it is to compliment her appearance, it is also important to remember to compliment her on other areas of your relationship.  Do you notice that the house is clean?  Has she prepared a nice dinner?  If so, thank her for the job well done.  This will not only help to improve your relationship in general, but it can have an impact on your experiences in the bedroom.

3 – Seduce Her

What is sex like in your home?  Does it occur like clockwork?  Do you actually take the time to ask if she wants to have sex?  Definitely ask her, but make it a seduction, don’t make it seem like you just expect her to want to have sex. Make it appealing and arousing for her – seduce her like you did when you started dating. You may be rejected, due to a headache or being tired, but why not take the chance?  Be spontaneous.  Seduce her and make her want to have sex with you.

4 – Fulfill Her Fantasies

In keeping with seducing your woman, let her know that you want to fulfill her fantasies.  It may take a few times before she opens up about what she likes or fantasizes about sexually, but the information will likely come out soon.  Give it your all to fulfill her fantasies and it is crucial that you never laugh at her fantasies.  It is also important to note that afterwards is the perfect time to share your fantasies and sexual desires with your partner.  In end, you may all end up being pleased much more.

As you can see, there are a number of different ways you can improve the intimacy in your relationship.  Please remember, however, that you want to get started in someplace other than the bedroom.  Sex in a long term relationship is about more and should be more than just the act itself.  Taking the time to date and compliment your partner will more than pay off in the end.

Do you need help planning how to improve your relationship? Contact me about an initial love coaching consultation to see how I can help you take your relationship to a more passionate, intimate and satisfying level. You can contact me at 4mitzirae@gmail.com

What It Means to Please Your Woman

Imagine for a minute – that your woman comes to you asking for sex. That’s right – you don’t have to ask, you don’t worry that she’ll claim to have a headache or to be too busy. That’s because you have proven to be the ideal partner and lover – and she wants you. She wants you to make love to her. Does that sound good? I’m going to give you the secret formula…

I once heard that “anyone can have sex, but making love is an art form.” That is very true, and pleasing your woman is an art. Here are the “secrets” you need to know to please your woman and to take your relationship to a deeper and more satisfying level.

First, you need to be aware and have thorough knowledge of what you woman wants, needs and desires. Sure you may have been together for a long time and you may feel that you know everything about her – but maybe you have started to take your relationship for granted. You know she takes care of the kids, she drives the car pool on Tuesdays and she almost always has dinner on the table by 7.

But do you know what drives her crazy? Do you know the spots where she wants to feel your lips on her body? Do you notice the subtle differences in her moans as she’s about to cum? What combinations of your hands, your mouth and intercourse does she prefer? What is her favorite type of foreplay? What’s her favorite after play?

Before we dig into those details, you should know that your woman needs three characters in her lover.

• She wants a father figure to take care of her, support and protect her – when she needs it
• A lover that respects, appreciates, and desire her and make passionate love to her
• A mischievous little boy who is playful, spontaneous, fun and unpredictable

She also needs certain things from her partner and lover:

• Sometimes (but not all the time) he wants you to take control
• Other times she wants to initiate sex – and she wants you to be ready, willing and able
• There are times when she wants to learn something new from you
• She wants you to make her laugh – laugh with her, not at her
• She wants and needs you to help her feel confident sexually – compliment her
• Just like she wants you to be a little boy at time, sometimes she wants to be a mischievous little girl

So down to the nitty gritty – these are the things that are included in pleasing your woman –

• You need to stimulate her mind and body – not just one, but both and its good to start with her mind
• Boost her confidence in bed – be honest and positive
• You need to put her needs first – don’t rush to cum yourself and you may want to learn ways to last longer in bed to please her longer
• Consider her feelings when you talk and deal with her – if she’s had a long day don’t rush her to have sex. Give her a massage and see what she wants it to go
• Let her know how you feel about her – sure we know men don’t want to talk about their feelings, but do you tell her that you love her? You need to.
• Maybe the most difficult is to help her accept her sexuality. It doesn’t make sense to men, but often family, friends, religion and society have “taught” a woman not to embrace her sexuality. You will both be much happier if you help her accept and surrender to her sexuality.

A short review of the results and benefits of pleasing your woman

• It builds her confidence and yours
• It encourages her to be more sexual
• You both will likely improve your sexual skills
• The better your sex life is – the less likely infidelity will be a concern
• It builds feelings of desirability in both of you
• You derive pleasure from seeing her pleasure and satisfaction
• The intimacy between you will increase
• The commitment between you will likely increase and/or improve
• And – you will likely have better sex

So, do you think it’s a good idea to focus on pleasing your woman?

If you would like personal advise and direction about pleasing your partner, contact me about a love coaching session at 4mitzirae@gmail.com

Can You Change Your Partner and Are They the Problem

Continuing to hold onto the myths and old-fashioned views of relationships and marriage can hold couples back from having a truly fulfilling and happy relationship.  It is important to recognize your partner and his or her individuality with so much to offer you and your relationship if you love, support and respect your partner.  Encouraging your partner through support, understanding and appreciation are crucial to breaking through stereotypes and the myths that surround relationships between men and women.

Working to dismiss that type of information as old-fashioned, irrelevant and flat-out wrong can open doors in your relationship you didn’t even know were closed. When things become tense between you and your partner, keep in mind some of the stereotypes you are familiar with and work to put them out of your mind.

For example, if one of you or both of you believe that romance is the best way to hide or ignore each others faults – that will cause you more problems. Someone who is not a nice person doesn’t miraculously change because they give their partner flowers.  That partner still isn’t a nice person.  Romantic gestures may hide faults for a while, but the person’s true self always come through.  Start by being realistic about each other and your expectations, then romance can work wonders to improve your relationship.

If you give them an inch, they’ll take a mile and if you are in a long time relationship, you most likely would have seen it by now if that is true about your partner. For most people, there isn’t any truth to this saying and it sets us up to be suspicious of someone. People who believe this myth will be suspicious when it isn’t warranted or deserved. If you give a little bit consistently, you will be satisfying your partner and they won’t need that extra.  If you don’t ever give or give so infrequently that your efforts are forgotten, your partner has every right to demand a mile from you.  Give him or her an inch and enjoy the journey down the rest of the mile together.

If you think that once you marry someone that you can change him or her, you are in for a rude awakening.  You cannot change a person, yet you can make an impact on how they see things, you can help them adjust to new or unfamiliar ways of thinking and you could manipulate them (although I never recommend that), but nothing will change or even fix your partner.

Never manipulate or push your partner into a direction he or she resists. You may be the one who needs to alter his or her way of thinking or viewing things. You may be able to do that on your own or require the help of a love coach to show you the skills you need for better understanding and acceptance of you and your spouse.  If you feel there are problems between you and your partner due to personality conflicts, try working together to learn how to express thoughts and feelings better and more productively.  If you are both in love, you will find the romance in there somewhere.

For more information about working with a love coach/relationship coach to improve your relationship, contact Mitzi at 4mitzirae@gmail.com

For more about relationship myth, read this article – http://shedyourinhibitions.com/2010/11/02/overcome-relationship-myths/

Battling and Overcoming Relationship Myths

Relationships and marriage are surrounded by many myths, stories and advice which are freely offered by people on a daily basis. Unfortunately, many people believe these pieces of “so-called” wisdom and often it doesn’t help their marriage and it often hinders their growth. Many of the relationship myths are incredibly damaging and it is unfortunate that these are such common beliefs. Once you understand why certain bits of advice or information can be regarded as myths, you can break through what could be blocking the growth of your relationship. You may learn to appreciate your partner and your role in your relationship even more.

Sensationalist television, magazines and talk radio have been key players in fueling the belief that there is a battle between the sexes. There are definitively some physical and psychological differences, but these things are not enough to be described as a ‘battle’. When you allow yourself to consider any kind of battle between the sexes, you risk grouping all men or all women into a certain category and as stereotyping. Once you recognize that your partner is a unique individual with a number of positive attributes, you can eliminate the idea that you have to be in a conflict or battle with your partner. A belief about a battle or conflict only leads to lack of communication, misunderstandings and it discourages growth in any relationship.

Nice guys finish last is one of the worst possible sayings floating around today. Whoever came up with that and actually uttered those words must have been feeling truly low and full of self-pity because there simply cannot be any other explanation. Nice guys never finish last. They may have a longer and harder road sometimes, but it isn’t often that you see the bullies and jerks finishing first. If they aren’t, who is? It’s the nice guys, but they are so nice and gracious you don’t hear them bragging about it. It is also important to note that the word ‘nice’ doesn’t mean ‘weak’ or ‘ effeminate’ in any way. Nice means socially or conventionally correct; refined or virtuous and not at all negative in any way. Nice is not another word for push over or spineless. Nice is as close to a ‘perfect’ man as you can come and they always end up first in line.

Romance is all you need in order to save your relationship is a wonderfully optimistic thought, but not quite accurate. If simple romance were enough to save a relationship, it would be running wonderfully rampant throughout the world today. Unfortunately, it takes more than simple romance. If you truly feel love for your partner and you are expressing it through romance, then it will save your relationship. If you are trying to use romance to buy some time or to placate your partner, then you are only buying time or placating your partner. Your time as a couple is most likely limited and should be attended to immediately by a professional.

If you would like to learn more about how to start a successful relationship or to improve a current relationship, contact me for more details – 4mitzirae@gmail.com on how to improve your relationship with yourself and with your loved one.

For more about relationship myth, http://shedyourinhibitions.com/2010/11/03/can-you-change-your-partner-and-are-they-the-problem/

Sex Toy Review – System JO Offers a Variety of Lube Options for Sexual Pleasure

I have done several reviews for various lubricants, stimulants and System JO Massage Glide, which can also be used as a lube. Today, I want to share details about the great options from System JO. We’re going to cover plenty of options — get your wish list ready.

Are you one of the people who doesn’t use or has never used a lubricant? Many people feel they don’t need to use any additional lubrication or have some confusion about lubes, but I would highly recommend that you give it a try. Maybe you’ve tried KY or water, or saliva – these are okay, but none are really effective. Some lube can also be great for foreplay when you’re both getting in the mood. There are also some times when women won’t be a wet, even with the usual stimulation — so add some lube to make it more pleasurable for both of you. If you’re embarrassed about buying lubricant at the store, you can order it online and its shipped to you discreetly. The items I share in this post can all be found here – http://www.systemjo.com/public/products/jo-personal-lubricants

The need or desire to use lube when you’re having sex, enjoying some foreplay or even masturbating — don’t feel like using lube shows anything lacking in your body or your technique. Its a totally natural thing to add extra lubrication. For fast sex, you may not need any lubrication, for a pre-lubed condom, you may not need anything extra. But for long lasting sexual intercourse, for sex in a hot tub or pool, for anal sex or simply for wetter sex with less friction – lube is the answer. You may have heard of people using a lot of lube, you should experiment with the amount and type of lube that’s best for you and your partner.

One of the great things about lube is that you can decide how wet you want your play to be — you can add a little lube to limit the amount of friction or you can use more during times and activities when you need more lubrication. You can also use a lot of lube if you prefer a “sloppy wet” experience. Lube is another way to make the sexual experience the best it can be for you and your partner. Flavored lubes are great for oral sex – they provide additional moisture and many people enjoy choosing a flavor. Some of the options include: raspberry sorbet, chocolate delight, lemon splash, peachy lips, cherry burst, banana lick, juicy pineapple, sweet pomegranate, strawberry kiss, tangerine dream, tropical passion and flavored watermelon. Think of the options and combinations — yummmm Anyone who reads my posts know how much I like to recommend creativity and spontaneity….

Here are some of your options with SystemJO – to get your imagination working.

You can start with a simple water based lube – it is compatible with all materials, safe to use in or on the body, is very easy to clean up and comes in warming, cooling, flavored and regular varieties. It is safe for use with condoms and with any kind of toys – including any silicone toys.

A Premium Silicone Lube which is very long lasting, can be used in water, but should not be used inside the body or with silicone toys.

The flavored lubes are scented and flavored to add several additional sensory benefits for you and your partner. These are also very good for people who are leery or uncomfortable giving oral sex. With a wide variety of flavors, there is something for everyone.

Do you like the warming or cooling sensations – System JO offers lubes that are warming or cooling to the touch. You can use one or the other, or a combination of the two. It all depends on what you and your lover like – or how creative you want to get. Maybe you want a cooling touch on your nipples and a warming touch between your legs – that is very easy to accomplish with warming and cooling lubes.

Seriously – the sky is the limit and you are only limited by your imagination — take a look at the options and buy a variety pack and see which sensations you like the best.  You can experiment with how much lube is best for you. Pour some warming lube or massage glide on your hands and then start by massaging your partner’s breasts. Maybe your partner would like you to start with their feet and work your way up their legs – your lube slicked hands are going to feel very erotic and your hands slide over their skin.

Your partner probably doesn’t want to feel like you are “groping” them, but some lube gives you the advantage of having a stimulating and erotic touch as you slide your hands over parts of your partner’s body. Again — you should experiment with how much lube is best for you. System JO lubes are thicker than many, they are long last (silicone being the most long lasting) and they are very moisturizing. I have found that their products really are not sticky or tacky — they feel natural. I have not tried them all, but I have tried 5 or 6 different products and they feel great.

Master Sexpert Tips

Let’s get down to my Master Sexpert Tips for you —

1. Lube is beneficial for many forms of sexual activity – masturbation, vaginal intercourse, anal sex and flavored lubes are great for oral sex – pick your flavor or choice or try different flavors.
2. Silicone lubes are especially made for use in the tub, shower or hot tub.
3. Never use a silicone lube with silicone toys.
4. Always use a water based lube inside a woman’s body
5. Warming lubes are great for nipple and breast stimulation and can be used on the genitals
6. For more vigorous sex – use lube to cut down on the friction and to let your partner thrust harder – for longer — and often, that’s what we want — isn’t it?
7. Oil and petroleum based lubes should not be used with condoms because it can cause the condom to deteriorate – KY Jelly should NOT be used with condoms
8. Water based lubes are a great choice, they are compatible with all toys and with condoms, it is easy to clean, and it doesn’t stain.
9. You may want to test several types of lubes on your own to see which type and what feel you like better. Then keep it close to your bed, in your glove compartment or purse — depending on where you may have sex
10. Silicone lubes are very long lasting during sex, and they are more difficult to clean up.
11. The wide variety of lubes offer you and your partner many possibilities – so give it a try and see what feels best for you and your lover.
12. While lube makes sex with your lover more fun – it is also great for self love. You may want to try the lube out on your own and then introduce it with your partner once you have experimented with the types to see what you like the best