You're a Vanilla girl - you enjoy romance, passion and sexy moments shared with your man. Sex is best for you when it's one-on-one and filled with romantic surprises. This doesn't mean it's all kisses and caresses though - you've got a naughty streak in you that drives your lover wild. Champagne, feathers, silk-sheets and roses are a few of your turn ons.
I’m fleshing out notes for an ebook on all aspects of kissing and a friend shared this on my Facebook profile — so had to share
Don’t mean to get a little forward with you, don’t mean to get ahead of where we are
Don’t mean to act a little nervous around you, I’m just a little nervous about my heart ’cause
It’s been awhile since I felt this feeling that everything that you do gives me
It’s been so long since somebody whispered
Shut up and kiss me
Didn’t expect to be in this position, didn’t expect to have to rise above
My reputation for cynicism, I’ve been a jaded lady when it comes to love but
Oh baby just to feel this feeling that everything that you do gives me
It’s been too long since somebody whispered
Shut up and kiss me
There’s something about the silent type attracting me to you
All business baby none of the hype
That no talker can live up to
Come closer baby I can’t hear you, just another whisper if you please
Don’t worry ’bout the details darlin’, you’ve got the kind of mind I love to read
Talk is cheap and baby time’s expensive, so why waste another minute more
Life’s too short to be so apprehensive, love’s as much the symptom darlin’ as the cure
Oh baby when I feel this feeling, it’s like genuine voodoo hits me
It’s been too long since somebody whispered…
Oh baby I can feel this feeling that everything that you do gives me
It’s been too long since somebody whispered
Shut up and kiss me
Shut up and kiss me
Here are some details from the Kissing Course – (in California you can earn CEUs with this course)
What Kissing Is
Kinds of Kisses
History of Kissing
Myths of Kissing
Preparing for the Kiss
The Art of Kissing
Kissing Rules
What Can be Kissed
Kissing Targets
G-Love
Where to Sneak a Kiss
Kissing – How To
Tantra Kisses
Kissing Positions
Kissing All Five Senses
Kissing Boundaries
Healing Kisses
Kissing Fears
Kiss-ercise
Kissing Games
Kissing Concerns
Orgasmic Kissing
Kissing with Piercing
The Hickey Kiss
Kissing Crimes
Kissing the Genitals
and more……
These are some of the things covered in the course — and the homework is wonderful
This Course Is For You If:
You want to Learn the Art of Tantric Kissing
You want to Discover What Can and Should be Kissed
You want to Become Skilled at Kissing Positions
You want to Know the Secret to Orgasmic Kissing
Welcome to Loveology University’s Kissing Certification Course. Inside you will learn everything you ever wanted to know about the most intimate act of kissing. There’s a lot more to kissing than two lips meeting and by the end of this course, you’ll be an expert on the history of kissing, the latest scientific research, dozens of sexy kissing tips and techniques, games, positions, places to kiss and you’ll discover what your kissing style says about you. Now pucker up for the ultimate kissing experience.
Its a new year and time for celebration and fun. Its a time for rebirth and starting over. Have you started or tried anything new with your partner? Its time for some lovin’ and smooth sensual lovin’ is the best. That’s a reason why I wanted to share my review for Moist Gel. For everyone who wants a smooth, sensual and sexy start to the New Year — its time to show a little self love (masturbate) and to show your partner how much you want to please them. That also means it would be a great time to try Moist Gel – Personal Lubricant.
Some time ago I shared my review for Moist Lubricant – http://shedyourinhibitions.com/2010/05/27/sex-toy-review-moist-personal-lubricant/
The regular Moist Lubricant is very good – but some people may have a concern about it being a thin liquid. The gel form is for people who are looking for a thicker lubricant. This is still very easy to use and spreads great on your hands or other body parts but it is a thicker consistency. You could try both – to see which consistency you prefer. It will likely remind you of a hair gel product when you first feel it.
If you haven’t used a lube before or if you’re looking for suggestions, here are some Master Sexpert Tips
Lube is beneficial for many forms of sexual activity – masturbation, vaginal intercourse, anal sex and flavored lubes are great for oral sex – pick your flavor or choice or try different flavors. Some lubes are especially made for use in the tub, shower or hot tub.
Never use a silicone lube with silicone toys.
Always use a water based lube inside a woman’s body
Always use a water based lube with condoms – oil and petroleum based lubes should not be used with condoms because it can cause the condom to deteriorate
Warming lubes are great for nipple and breast stimulation and can be used on the genitals – however all lubes will help your hands slide over your partner’s body easier and more sensually
If you prefer more vigorous sex – definitely use lube to cut down on the friction and to let your partner thrust harder and longer. The lube provides the option to have more rigorous sex without the chafing etc that can happen after rough and/or long lovemaking sessions.
Water based lubes are a great choice, they are compatible with all toys and with condoms, it is easy to clean, and it doesn’t stain.
You may want to test several types of lubes on your own to see which type and what feel you like better. Then keep it close to your bed, in your glove compartment or purse — depending on where you plan to have sex
Moist Gel is thick enough to be used for anal sex
The tube is easy to open, easy to get the desired amount of lube out and easy to close.
Music is a very powerful medium. Certain songs can make us feel mellow, make us mad, make us happy, make us horny and many other emotions. I know that for me, some songs spark very happy or very sad memories and of course, some very erotic and sexy memories.
One example is that each man I have dated seriously – have contributed to the musicians I enjoy. Some examples include: The Rolling Stones, Bruce Springsteen, Lyndard Skynard, ZZ Top and others. So – each time I hear any song (and some specific songs), I remember some special memories between the two of us.
Here are the questions…..
What’s your favorite song for slow, sweet and passionate love making?
What’s your favorite song for raw, wild and unihibited sex?
Are the songs different for different sexual partners?
Has a parner/lover prompted you to enjoy a new musician? If so – why?
Do you like soothing music that sweeps over your body and seems to wrap around your bodies?
Do you use music to set the mood for sex? Is it the same music with each person and each time or does it vary?
What songs make up your sexual soundtrack or is yours a more sensual soundtrack?
As we getting closer to the biggest gift giving time of the year – I’m catching up a bunch of product reviews. Hope you will bear with me and I hope that you get some fun and sexy gift ideas. Over the last year, I’ve tried to share a wide variety of product reviews and if you’d like to see them all, visit my main review page where I post links to all reviews. (http://shedyourinhibitions.com/reviews-by-mitzi)
The latest item I got from CalExotics is the Calypso 7 Speed Massager. The shape and appearance of this item is very unique and how can you go wrong with 7 speeds. We’re all familiar with the usual vibrators – but there are so many other stimulating options for individuals and couples.
The Calypso has a unique shape which is great to use yourself or with a partner to stimulate just about any erogenous zone for both of you. Remember that you can use toys on any part of the body — don’t just focus on the genital areas. You have erogenous zones all over your body and so does your partner.
One of the first things I noticed about the Calypso is the “soft silicone pleasure nubs” – well I call it the scrubby surface That feels good and stimulating to any part of the body and with the 7 different settings, you can definitely find a setting that feels good for all locations on the body and also easily change it to fit your changing mood and as you become more aroused…..
I did have a little trouble figuring out how to work the controls — but you see the small button on the right side, just push that to change the setting and this was the complicated part – hold down on the button to turn it off. The part shown on the right comes off so you can put the batteries in — it is a very snug fit, but it does slide apart.
Let’s Get Down to the Nitty Gritty with the Master Sexpert Tips -
Always clean your toys thoroughly before and after you play and especially on the “pleasure nubs” – but this one doesn’t appear to be waterproof
If you use the Calypso anywhere near the anus, clean it before playing near the vagina.
Use your imagination and be very creative with this toy. The shape is great for using on your own body or your partner’s – and you can use the side with the nubs, the end or the other side. However you choose to use it – the goal is to stimulate yourself and/or your partner.
You can use lube with this to help it slide across the body easier – but keep it away from the opening for the batteries.
You might want to add this to a massage for your partner
It can also be a great addition to your self love time
Remember to try the different speeds/pulses to see what feels best to your partner
When using this on someone else, remember that the “pleasure nubs” will intensify your touch, so pay attention to your partner’s reactions.
Keep in mind – you and your partner have erogenous zones all over your body — so try them all or simply start moving the Calypso along the skin, across the shoulders and shoulder blades, slide down to run it around and across the breasts, maybe use it to enhance a foot or leg massage, use it to tease her or his perineum — you get the idea….
Laura Berman, LCSW, PhD has been working as a sex educator and therapist for 20 years, and is considered a leader in her field. Her latest book, “Real Sex for Real Women” is an international Best Seller.
7-Function Curved Massager with Silicone Foreplay Arousers
“Put sexual satisfaction right at your fingertips”
Velvety smooth and seamless massager angled for the perfect reach
7 powerful functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation
Soft Silicone pleasure nubs
Easy grip handle
Easy off button
2 AA batteries
ABS with PU Cote (massager) Silicone (pleasure nubs)
The top 3 things to consider before you decide to swing
Number 1 – Why are you doing it?
What is the main motivation behind wanting to have a threesome, foursome or moresome with your partner? Is it just to experience something new with them, to evolve your relationship and do something awesome together? Are you trying to fill a need that isn’t being met by your relationship? Or is this your way of being able to have your cake and eat it to; meaning you absolutely love your partner but occasionally want to play with someone else for the fun of it?
Now none of those reasons are bad and are the typical reasons why other couples enter the lifestyle. The important thing is knowing why you want to get into it and why your partner wants to get into it, and then sharing that information with each other. This conversation in itself may highlight potential issues, but once they are out in the open, you can discuss whether or not swinging will become a healthy answer for you. And if not, then you can seek some help to get your relationship in a better space to be able to.
Number 2 – What are your boundaries?
This is all about what you are comfortable with and what you’re not. This is another conversation you need to have before you hit the playground since many couples have different boundaries. The most important thing here is to really listen to each other, and to commit to playing within the boundaries of the person who has the most.
The transition from traditional to swinger can be a very vulnerable one because you are changing the rules in your relationship. So this is the time where you really need to do whatever it takes to make sure your partner still feels loved, and that they know they are always your number one.
The good news is that over time the boundaries often relax and it gets a whole lot easier and less worrying. I know in the beginning I was constantly checking in with my husband to make sure he was ok, being that he had the most boundaries and we weren’t sure how we were going to feel once we got into the situation and seeing the other with someone else. As it turned out, it was a complete turn on for both of us (like many others) but you really won’t know for sure until you’re in that situation.
Number 3 – Do your research; get educated!
Find out what you can expect in the scene or in the clubs you may want to visit. Read articles about swinging so you can be properly informed about the pro’s and con’s, and read other people’s blogs to get an idea of what you might want to try, what “stuff” came up for them and how they dealt with it. I have a small list on my site but you an Google for those; there are literally hundreds!
Find out as much as you need to know to feel comfortable with what you’re doing and who you are doing it with, then take your time to decide who the lucky someone’s are, or what clubs or events you decide to attend. There are unlimited options and a lot of fun to be had.
The more educated you are, the less mistakes you will make and if you value your relationship, and truly want this to supercharge your sex-life while creating a stronger bond between the 2 of you, then you’ll do what it takes to keep it safe and solid. This was the main reason I started writing about swinging and created the book in the first place!
Swinging absolutely has the potential to take your relationship to a whole new level of depth and connection if you have the right foundation, and having conversations like these are a great starting point. We’ve had heaps of fun, lots of passionate nights and our relationship has never been as strong and our sex life has been the envy of many other married couples…
Shall we see you on the swinging playground sometime soon?
Chantelle Austin, Author of “The Essential Guide for Adventurous Couples” and Relationship Coach for people and relationships that are outside the square. When it comes to relationships, swinging, sex and sexuality, nothing is swept under the rug! Check out www.chantelleaustin.com for more articles, her book, relationship solutions and to ask her questions using Ask Chantelle. Link to the book is http://www.chantelleaustin.com/essential-guide
If you’re a love coach, a relationship coach, a sexpert, or any other person who does education, counseling, coaching etc for any of these fields – I would like to invite you to complete a written interview that I put together.
I plan to use these to post on a couple of my blogs to help the general public get an idea of what we do and the types of services that are available.
I plan to use some quotes from the interviews in some other projects I’m working on — and each person that completes the interview can get free exposure. If you would like to be anonymous – that is fine too. I’m very flexible, so I want each person to be able to share as much information about what they do as possible.
Please drop me a note if you have questions – 4mitzirae@gmail.com
Are you in a long term relationship and do you love your man? Likely you do, but over time you learned that love isn’t always enough to keep a relationship going strong. Work, kids, the house and so much more gets in the way of your intimate time together. Intimacy is very important to having a strong, happy, and healthy relationship. How do you keep the intimacy and desire burning?
How is your life in the bedroom? Do you feel your sex and intimacy can be improved? If so, you may be nervous about discussing the subject with your man. After all, he may get the wrong impression and think he doesn’t satisfy you anymore. If you are interested in improving your intimacy with your man, there are still a number of different approaches that you can take. A few of these approaches are touched on below.
1 – Take the Initiative and Invite Him on a Date
If you have been together for a while, there is a good chance that you haven’t gone out on a date in a while. Many couples get to a point in their relationship that is called “the comfort zone.” This zone is not one that you want to be in, as your relationship may feel more like a friendship. Friendship is wonderful, but be sure you also keep the passion alive. A step toward this goal, is to ask your man out on a date.
Although many women believe that their men should do the date asking, you sometimes have to take hold of the situation yourself. Now may be one of those times. Choose an activity that is romantic, such as a romantic comedy for a movie or a nice restaurant. This can help to spark a little bit of romance and passion in your relationship, which may lead to better and closer intimacy at home. Also keep in mind that most men like when their lady takes the initiative…
2 – Show Romantic Gestures
When it comes to “wowing,” in a relationship, women sometimes think that men should do it. You will also want to “wow,” your man like you did the first time that you met. One of the easiest ways to do so is by performing a number of romantic gestures. When out shopping with your man, grab their hand and hold it. While you’re holding his hand, gently stroke his hand with your fingers or thumb or tickle his palm with your fingertip. When you walk past him in the house, give him a quick kiss or you can reach around and pinch his on the rear end. Sending a love note to work or send him a sexy text or email during the day – these are simple romantic gestures you may want to try.
3 – Be Sexy and Seductive
If your relationship enters into the comfort zone, sex and intimacy seems like a thing of the past – its time to take the initiative and shake things up. If you do have sex, it may seem more like a responsibly or even work. To help reduce these feelings, be sexy and seductive. Do not wait for your man to initiate sex and do not ask if he’s up for it first, just get right down to business. Strip for your man or help him remove his clothes. Snuggle next to him on the couch and start massaging his whole body. You may be surprised just how easy and effective it is to be sexy and seductive.
Do you have an outfit that he likes a lot? Is there a way that he thinks your hair is sexy? Does he like you to join him in the shower? Is there a CD that has especially sexy songs that you both enjoy? Would he enjoy a game of strip poker? Get creative and show your man that you want him – he’ll love it and love you for taking the initiative.
4 – Be Spontaneous
As I said above, do not ask your man if he wants to have sex and do not wait for him to start. Instead, take matters into your own hands- literally if necessary. Whether you start with a little bit of foreplay or jump right into the intercourse, just do it. Your man should like the surprise. Remember that being spontaneous involves having sex at different times of the day, as well as in different locations of the house.
5 – Offer to Experiment In the Bedroom
To improve sex and intimacy it is important to know that a change can do you good. You may want to suggest to your partner that you experiment in the bedroom or take them up on their suggestion to try something different. Remember that experimenting in the bedroom doesn’t have to mean getting an additional sex partner or doing something that makes you feel uncomfortable. A new sex position may be just what your relationship needs. Maybe you want to buy some flavored lube to play with or maybe you want to buy some sexy lingerie. You can start slowly if that makes you feel better – but try something different.
As you can see, there are a number of easy ways that you can go about improving your intimacy with your husband. So what are you waiting for? Get started today.
Do you need help planning how to improve or to spice up your relationship? Contact me about an initial love coaching consultation to see how I can help you take your relationship to a more passionate, intimate and satisfying level. You can contact me at 4mitzirae@gmail.com
Imagine for a minute – that your woman comes to you asking for sex. That’s right – you don’t have to ask, you don’t worry that she’ll claim to have a headache or to be too busy. That’s because you have proven to be the ideal partner and lover – and she wants you. She wants you to make love to her. Does that sound good? I’m going to give you the secret formula…
I once heard that “anyone can have sex, but making love is an art form.” That is very true, and pleasing your woman is an art. Here are the “secrets” you need to know to please your woman and to take your relationship to a deeper and more satisfying level.
First, you need to be aware and have thorough knowledge of what you woman wants, needs and desires. Sure you may have been together for a long time and you may feel that you know everything about her – but maybe you have started to take your relationship for granted. You know she takes care of the kids, she drives the car pool on Tuesdays and she almost always has dinner on the table by 7.
But do you know what drives her crazy? Do you know the spots where she wants to feel your lips on her body? Do you notice the subtle differences in her moans as she’s about to cum? What combinations of your hands, your mouth and intercourse does she prefer? What is her favorite type of foreplay? What’s her favorite after play?
Before we dig into those details, you should know that your woman needs three characters in her lover.
She wants a father figure to take care of her, support and protect her – when she needs it
A lover that respects, appreciates, and desire her and make passionate love to her
A mischievous little boy who is playful, spontaneous, fun and unpredictable
She also needs certain things from her partner and lover:
Sometimes (but not all the time) he wants you to take control
Other times she wants to initiate sex – and she wants you to be ready, willing and able
There are times when she wants to learn something new from you
She wants you to make her laugh – laugh with her, not at her
She wants and needs you to help her feel confident sexually – compliment her
Just like she wants you to be a little boy at time, sometimes she wants to be a mischievous little girl
So down to the nitty gritty – these are the things that are included in pleasing your woman –
You need to stimulate her mind and body – not just one, but both and its good to start with her mind
Boost her confidence in bed – be honest and positive
You need to put her needs first – don’t rush to cum yourself and you may want to learn ways to last longer in bed to please her longer
Consider her feelings when you talk and deal with her – if she’s had a long day don’t rush her to have sex. Give her a massage and see what she wants it to go
Let her know how you feel about her – sure we know men don’t want to talk about their feelings, but do you tell her that you love her? You need to.
Maybe the most difficult is to help her accept her sexuality. It doesn’t make sense to men, but often family, friends, religion and society have “taught” a woman not to embrace her sexuality. You will both be much happier if you help her accept and surrender to her sexuality.
A short review of the results and benefits of pleasing your woman
It builds her confidence and yours
It encourages her to be more sexual
You both will likely improve your sexual skills
The better your sex life is – the less likely infidelity will be a concern
It builds feelings of desirability in both of you
You derive pleasure from seeing her pleasure and satisfaction
The intimacy between you will increase
The commitment between you will likely increase and/or improve
And – you will likely have better sex
So, do you think it’s a good idea to focus on pleasing your woman?
If you would like personal advise and direction about pleasing your partner, contact me about a love coaching session at 4mitzirae@gmail.com
