Review – Add Some Smooth Sensual Loving to Your New Year

Its a new year and time for celebration and fun. Its a time for rebirth and starting over. Have you started or tried anything new with your partner? Its time for some lovin’ and smooth sensual lovin’ is the best.  That’s a reason why I wanted to share my review for Moist Gel. For everyone who wants a smooth, sensual and sexy start to the New Year — its time to show a little self love (masturbate) and to show your partner how much you want to please them. That also means it would be a great time to try Moist Gel – Personal Lubricant.

Some time ago I shared my review for Moist Lubricant – http://shedyourinhibitions.com/2010/05/27/sex-toy-review-moist-personal-lubricant/

The regular Moist Lubricant is very good – but some people may have a concern about it being a thin liquid. The gel form is for people who are looking for a thicker lubricant. This is still very easy to use and spreads great on your hands or other body parts but it is a thicker consistency. You could try both – to see which consistency you prefer. It will likely remind you of a hair gel product when you first feel it.

If you haven’t used a lube before or if you’re looking for suggestions, here are some Master Sexpert Tips

Lube is beneficial for many forms of sexual activity – masturbation, vaginal intercourse, anal sex and flavored lubes are great for oral sex – pick your flavor or choice or try different flavors.  Some lubes are especially made for use in the tub, shower or hot tub.

1. Never use a silicone lube with silicone toys.
2. Always use a water based lube inside a woman’s body
3. Always use a water based lube with condoms – oil and petroleum based lubes should not be used with condoms because it can cause the condom to deteriorate
4. Warming lubes are great for nipple and breast stimulation and can be used on the genitals – however all lubes will help your hands slide over your partner’s body easier and more sensually
5. If you prefer more vigorous sex – definitely use lube to cut down on the friction and to let your partner thrust harder and longer. The lube provides the option to have more rigorous sex without the chafing etc that can happen after rough and/or long lovemaking sessions.
6. Water based lubes are a great choice, they are compatible with all toys and with condoms, it is easy to clean, and it doesn’t stain.
7. You may want to test several types of lubes on your own to see which type and what feel you like better. Then keep it close to your bed, in your glove compartment or purse — depending on where you plan to have sex
8. Moist Gel is thick enough to be used for anal sex
9. The tube is easy to open, easy to get the desired amount of lube out and easy to close.

Visit the Pipedream Products page for Moist Gel – http://www.pipedreamcompanystore.com/showdetail_c.php?Full_Number=PD9716-01

Feel free to share your thoughts and experiences with any of the Moist Lubricants —

Sex Toy Review – System JO Offers a Variety of Lube Options for Sexual Pleasure

I have done several reviews for various lubricants, stimulants and System JO Massage Glide, which can also be used as a lube. Today, I want to share details about the great options from System JO. We’re going to cover plenty of options — get your wish list ready.

Are you one of the people who doesn’t use or has never used a lubricant? Many people feel they don’t need to use any additional lubrication or have some confusion about lubes, but I would highly recommend that you give it a try. Maybe you’ve tried KY or water, or saliva – these are okay, but none are really effective. Some lube can also be great for foreplay when you’re both getting in the mood. There are also some times when women won’t be a wet, even with the usual stimulation — so add some lube to make it more pleasurable for both of you. If you’re embarrassed about buying lubricant at the store, you can order it online and its shipped to you discreetly. The items I share in this post can all be found here – http://www.systemjo.com/public/products/jo-personal-lubricants

The need or desire to use lube when you’re having sex, enjoying some foreplay or even masturbating — don’t feel like using lube shows anything lacking in your body or your technique. Its a totally natural thing to add extra lubrication. For fast sex, you may not need any lubrication, for a pre-lubed condom, you may not need anything extra. But for long lasting sexual intercourse, for sex in a hot tub or pool, for anal sex or simply for wetter sex with less friction – lube is the answer. You may have heard of people using a lot of lube, you should experiment with the amount and type of lube that’s best for you and your partner.

One of the great things about lube is that you can decide how wet you want your play to be — you can add a little lube to limit the amount of friction or you can use more during times and activities when you need more lubrication. You can also use a lot of lube if you prefer a “sloppy wet” experience. Lube is another way to make the sexual experience the best it can be for you and your partner. Flavored lubes are great for oral sex – they provide additional moisture and many people enjoy choosing a flavor. Some of the options include: raspberry sorbet, chocolate delight, lemon splash, peachy lips, cherry burst, banana lick, juicy pineapple, sweet pomegranate, strawberry kiss, tangerine dream, tropical passion and flavored watermelon. Think of the options and combinations — yummmm Anyone who reads my posts know how much I like to recommend creativity and spontaneity….

Here are some of your options with SystemJO – to get your imagination working.

You can start with a simple water based lube – it is compatible with all materials, safe to use in or on the body, is very easy to clean up and comes in warming, cooling, flavored and regular varieties. It is safe for use with condoms and with any kind of toys – including any silicone toys.

A Premium Silicone Lube which is very long lasting, can be used in water, but should not be used inside the body or with silicone toys.

The flavored lubes are scented and flavored to add several additional sensory benefits for you and your partner. These are also very good for people who are leery or uncomfortable giving oral sex. With a wide variety of flavors, there is something for everyone.

Do you like the warming or cooling sensations – System JO offers lubes that are warming or cooling to the touch. You can use one or the other, or a combination of the two. It all depends on what you and your lover like – or how creative you want to get. Maybe you want a cooling touch on your nipples and a warming touch between your legs – that is very easy to accomplish with warming and cooling lubes.

Seriously – the sky is the limit and you are only limited by your imagination — take a look at the options and buy a variety pack and see which sensations you like the best.  You can experiment with how much lube is best for you. Pour some warming lube or massage glide on your hands and then start by massaging your partner’s breasts. Maybe your partner would like you to start with their feet and work your way up their legs – your lube slicked hands are going to feel very erotic and your hands slide over their skin.

Your partner probably doesn’t want to feel like you are “groping” them, but some lube gives you the advantage of having a stimulating and erotic touch as you slide your hands over parts of your partner’s body. Again — you should experiment with how much lube is best for you. System JO lubes are thicker than many, they are long last (silicone being the most long lasting) and they are very moisturizing. I have found that their products really are not sticky or tacky — they feel natural. I have not tried them all, but I have tried 5 or 6 different products and they feel great.

Master Sexpert Tips

Let’s get down to my Master Sexpert Tips for you —

1. Lube is beneficial for many forms of sexual activity – masturbation, vaginal intercourse, anal sex and flavored lubes are great for oral sex – pick your flavor or choice or try different flavors.
2. Silicone lubes are especially made for use in the tub, shower or hot tub.
3. Never use a silicone lube with silicone toys.
4. Always use a water based lube inside a woman’s body
5. Warming lubes are great for nipple and breast stimulation and can be used on the genitals
6. For more vigorous sex – use lube to cut down on the friction and to let your partner thrust harder – for longer — and often, that’s what we want — isn’t it?
7. Oil and petroleum based lubes should not be used with condoms because it can cause the condom to deteriorate – KY Jelly should NOT be used with condoms
8. Water based lubes are a great choice, they are compatible with all toys and with condoms, it is easy to clean, and it doesn’t stain.
9. You may want to test several types of lubes on your own to see which type and what feel you like better. Then keep it close to your bed, in your glove compartment or purse — depending on where you may have sex
10. Silicone lubes are very long lasting during sex, and they are more difficult to clean up.
11. The wide variety of lubes offer you and your partner many possibilities – so give it a try and see what feels best for you and your lover.
12. While lube makes sex with your lover more fun – it is also great for self love. You may want to try the lube out on your own and then introduce it with your partner once you have experimented with the types to see what you like the best

Pornography – What is It and Is It For You?

There is much that is said about pornography, both positive and negative – mainly depending on who you talk to and their perspective.

Where do many people get their perspective on porn? The most common places are:

• Classmates/peers or Friends
• Mother, Father or Siblings
• Mentors, Teachers, Coaches or Counselors
• Clergy or your religion
• Media or TV
• Uncles, Aunts or Other relatives

Anyone that you spend time with could be where you got your perspective about porn, whether it’s good or bad. That is especially true with most religious clergy. Family members and friends can have an interesting impact on our thoughts and people who have a supervisory relationship with us can definitely change or form our opinions – like teachers, coaches or mentors.

Where did you learn about porn?

• High school and/or college locker room
• A friend’s house
• Corner drug store that sells a wide variety of magazines
• A video store that carries adult movies
• Online – through porn sites, ads, emails, forums, etc
• You may have heard in a family discussion
• Your parents or another relative may have a collection
• Older sibling – usually an older brother
• Cable or pay TV options

I remember the first time I opened a Playboy magazine – it was at my aunt and uncle’s house and I was babysitting my cousin, so I had the run of the house while they were out. My uncle had a big collection in the attic bedroom and that was my room whenever I watched my cousin overnight for them. Of course I’d heard hushed tones of family members and religious family friends that Playboy was the “devils work”. I was a kid, what did I know J But that does support the fact that many of us got our first impressions from family and religion.

Centuries ago – fine art often included nude men and women. If you look really close, they are often doing a variety of things, of course, that depends on where you see the art. But its still interesting that in other countries, there is fine art, statues, and other respected pieces of art which feature nude bodies.

However, nude or nearly nude bodies in movies and pictures are viewed as being bad in the United States. That often depends on the type of people you are around. I’ll share more about my experiences in a video store that rented and sold porn in another post, but I can tell you that we had a wide variety of people who rented and bought our movies. There were men, women, single and married people, some were very religious and they usually wandered around the store until the other people left. But they still rented porn on a regular basis. So – porn can be viewed by both genders, various relationship statuses, various religious viewpoints and many other variables.

Pornography or Erotica

Here is an interesting definition of erotica – Erotica has an interactive definition in that its meaning directly relates with who makes the classification. To be delineated as erotic it must be by the viewer’s standards an acceptable depiction of the acts of love and sex. So, the distinction is subjective and depends on the viewer.

Erotica is very popular with many women – along with movies and books that could easily be called soft porn. This can include novels, short stories, movies with erotic content (often Unrated) and sometimes soap operas push the limits – although the sheets are placed strategically. On the other hand, if a man read or watched the same thing, would many people automatically classify it as porn? I’ve got news for you – women watch porn and they have been watching it for a long time.

In recent years, there have been porn movies that are geared to women – and these can be just as graphic as the movies that men enjoy. But you will often see some differences. If you would like details about that – you should read Porn by Erika Lust. It’s a great book about women and porn – it also gives a great history of porn that many men would enjoy. My review is posted here – http://shedyourinhibitions.com/2010/07/30/book-review-good-porn-by-erika-lust/

So – how do you personal draw the line between erotica and porn? How do you feel about these movies or the books and how did you develop that viewpoint?

We’ll discuss more about pornography in future posts. If you would like to check into an online course that delves into the history or porn, details about porn, ways to use porn to spice up your love life and much more, check http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/ShortCourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=53&a_aid=litekepr

Reasons to Have a Threesomes – Some Things to Consider First

Seems to me that every man I’ve ever had an intimate conversation with – has mentioned or strongly suggested that he’d like to participate in a threesome. Actually, some men that I didn’t want to have an intimate conversation with have said the same thing – but that’s a topic for another time.

So – it seems that men are fascinated with group sex, in particular, sex with two or more women at a time.  I have noticed they aren’t as interested in sex with a man and a woman – although sometimes they are – just not as often and some men say emphatically, no to sex with another man in the room.

Technically group sex includes sex with 3, 4, 5, or more people. There are more mouths, more hands, more arms, more legs – but there is also more need to communicate, more need to for coordination, more feelings, more baggage….  Not to bring you down, but there are many things to consider about group sex.

Let’s start at the beginning, these are some of the reasons to add another person or more people:

• To get more attention
• The opportunity to show off your skills
• Experiment with bisexuality
• Simply for some variety
• As a way to get variety without the need to lie or cheat
• Because you’re curious
• Be a voyeur and watch someone please your partner
• The chance to learn new skills
• Get past the usual social programming
• Explore and learn more about yourself
• Experiment with new sexual activities
• Learn new ways to love and please your partner
• Live out a fantasy

Society, friends, family, religion and other outside forces may say group sex is wrong, but honestly, if you’re an adult, every one is a consenting adult and no one gets hurt, you can do what you want.

One of the biggest issues I’ve noticed when talking to people about group sex – is their fear. This can be jealousy, insecurity for a variety of reasons, feel that its wrong, uncomfortable because it pushes their personal sexual boundaries.

No matter how great the fantasy, you need to have an honest conversation with your partner before you approach someone about joining you. Neither person should ever agree just to please the other – any sexual act you participate in, should be done because you want to do it. Threesomes and group sex definitely fall into that category.

A relationship can be ruined for many reasons, but group sex can definitely be a contributing factor. Here is a scenario – a couple had talked since the time they dated about having another woman have sex with them. The man wanted to be with two women and to watch them together. The woman was bi-curious and wanted to be with a woman and it was less pressure to do it with her husband. They finally found a woman and asked her to spend the night with them. The husband and wife were both friends with the other woman and she didn’t know it, but the wife had a crush on her.

So, they felt they discussed all the important things before hand and they got together several times to test the physical boundaries and everything seemed fine.   Then the night came and the eventually went to the bedroom. They were a little awkward at first, but everyone loosened up and there was plenty of kissing, fondling, hands and mouths roaming from person to person, things seemed to be going fine.

The husband and wife had intercourse and the wife clearly wanted to leave the other woman out. So, she stayed to the side. The wife got up and left the room a little later. When she returned, the husband had his arm around the other woman, talking to her. Nothing sexual was going on, although they were nude, but the wife abruptly decided it was time for everyone to get out of bed.

The three of them were together one more time after that. Shortly, each of the relationships deteriorated, and the couple eventually divorced. This couple had talked about a threesome for years, but still weren’t ready for the emotional repercussions.

These are a few of the negative reasons to participate in a threesome – are any of these the reason why you would be in a threesome? If so, you really should reconsider.

• Win back a partner
• Please a partner
• Hurt a partner
• Fear of intimacy
• Fear of commitment
• Want the rush of being in a new relationship

So – if you are one of the men or women who fantasizes about being in a threesome, or foursome or any other configuration of group sex, why do you want to have sex with multiple people at once and what would you do to prepare yourself and your partner? Or, would you be the other man or other woman in the scenario? If you would be joining a couple, what should you do before agreeing to join in?

If you would like to learn much more about group sex, check back for more articles or you can simply enter your email in the top right corner to subscribe to my blog. You can also check out the Group Sex course at Loveology University – http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/ShortCourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=62&a_aid=litekepr

Book Review – Good Porn by Erika Lust

Good Porn by Erika Lust

We all know that the majority of porn is watched by men. However, more and more women are watching porn – and I noticed long ago that there are very different attitudes between men and women when it comes to renting, buying, and watching porn.

About 15 years ago I managed a video store that rented mainstream movies and also had a section of adult movies. I learned which customers rented each type of movie – but I also noticed something interesting. Many of the men who rented porn, came into the store and wandered through all the sections, glancing at many video box covers – eventually ending up in the area where they could choose their adult movies. However, the women who rented porn walked in the door and straight to the back of the store. The men would linger over the covers for a long time – but the women could make their decision in just a few minutes. It was interesting and entertaining to watch on a daily basis.

Over the last 15 years, some things have changed in the adult movie industry and the content they are producing and distributing. I remember in the mid 90s, there were many movies produced to appeal to men – and I bought our videos, so I was familiar with the selection of movies available each month. There were some more “story” type movies which were the ones that were prompted as “women’s” porn. These were much tamer than the “men’s” movies and I often thought they were too tame – but that’s just a personal observation J (I’ll share more about these experiences in another post.)

However – now, there are directors and producers who are developing better porn for women. That is the topic of Good Porn by Erika Lust. You may wonder why she is qualified to write this book. That’s because she is the Award Winning director of Five Hot Stories for Her (2007) and the Barcelona Sex Project (2008).

These are the topics in the book -

• Chapter 1 – Porn For Men
• Chapter 2 – Women, Feminism, and Pornography
• Chapter 3 – The History of Porn
• Chapter 4 – FAQs
• Chapter 5 – A Dictionary of Porn
• Chapter 6 – Horror Movies, Comedies and Porn
• Chapter 7 – A Word to the Wise Wanker
• Chapter 8 – Sexy Shopping
• Chapter 9 – A Smorgasbord of Adult Films
• Chapter 10 – Relax and Enjoy It
• Chapter 11 – Adult Films for Grown Up Women: A Manifesto

This book is written in a way that it is very useful for people who aren’t familiar with the diversity in the porn industry, but also full of detail for people who understand what is available.

One of my favorite parts is the “In the Phony, Predictable Porn by Men”. She totally nails it (I’ll let you decide about the pun) – there are many things that you just know will be in traditional porn films. Some of these things appeal to women, but it seems that these things turn off a good number of women. So- women need to know that there are alternatives – there are a growing number of women directing and producing porn —- that appeals to women in a greater way.

There are plenty of objections to porn that we’ve all heard – but seriously, how many women do you know who enjoy steamy Lifetime movies or various series – that contain plenty of steamy scenes. What about soap operas – is there a place of network TV where you see more sex and especially in the middle of the day?

So – there are plenty of women who enjoy erotic, sexual content and now they can find a selection of adult movies that are more graphic, but done in a more subtle way. There is atmosphere in these films that you won’t find in the porn produced by men.  To quote Erika Lust – “We want sexually explicit images, but we want to call the shots when it comes to how they are made.” She also says, “We want films that are made for adult women, films that show us real women, films that tell us about our sexuality. We don’t want to be portrayed as passive objects or victims but as active subjects giving and receiving pleasure. We want to see other women enjoying themselves.”

There is a great section in the book that gives details of the better known porn over the last 30-40 years. I bet you’ve heard of Deep Throat, Debbie Does Dallas, The Green Door, The Devil in Miss Jones and many more – the details are all here. Learn about various directors over the years, the differences in their work. Learn why you will likely see multiple women having sex on screen, but rarely see two men showing any affection.

If you enjoy surfing the online porn sites, there are plenty mentioned in the book – where you may find some new videos and clips that you will enjoy. You will also learn about the many types of porn – there are many sub categories in the porn industry and this is your guide book to learn more and to learn how to identify the types that will appeal to you. In addition there is information and reference links for information about adult boutiques, sex toys, and so much more.

Very simply – this is an awesome guidebook to help anyone understand porn and various parts of the ever expanding sexual options better.  If you are ready to get in touch with your sensual, sexy side and you would like to learn more about the type of adult movies that are available – you need this book – today!

Sex Toy Review – Lia Dual Stimulator Tickle Tip

Recently I reviewed the Lia Wand (CalExotics) and the Pearl G Spot Massager (Pipedream) – both are shaped quite a bit like the Lia Dual Stimulator. However, there are a couple of distinct differences.  All three of these have features that will stimulate your G-spot. The tip of the first two are tilted toward the G-Spot, the Lia Wand has a flexible tip, while the Pearl has a firm tip for G-Spot massage. I liked both of these toys – they both have interesting features – depending on the type of stimulation and massage that each person likes.

There are some distinct variations in the Lia Dual Stimulator. Let’s start with the clitoral stimulator tip. Its the usual “rabbit” shape, but the tip has two tips that vibrate and stimulate your clitoris with a tantalizing touch. It feels very good on the clitoris, but this will also tickle and stimulate almost any errogenous zone. If you can angle this toy in a way that lets these tips touch your skin, it will massage you in a very nice way. There are some toys, like this toy from the Couture Collection (one of my favorite toys – so far . One of the really stimulating features about the Couture toy is that the tip of the clitoris stimulator gives a steady firm vibration and stimulation to the clitoris. Your choice could depend on the type of clit stimulation you want.

Now let’s move on the the G-spot stimulation with the Lia Dual Stimulator. The tip is unique – and it looks kind of funny when you first look at it. It almost looks like s scrubby brush you would use to clean – but you will have very different feelings about that shape Check my Master Sexpert tips for details about the stimulator tip — you have to try this

Master Sexpert Tips –

• Use plenty of lube for clitoral, vaginal, G-spot or especially anal massage
• Never use a toy in the anus and move to the vagina without cleaning it thoroughly first – with toy cleaner or soap and water. This is really important any time, but the character of the tip makes it even more important.
• Be creative – this toy has the usual “rabbit” shape, but you can still turn it and use at slightly different angles to see which feel better for you.  Let your partner try many variations (you have 10 vibrations, pulses etc to use) and let him/her know what you like better. Then use it on them
• Be sure to thoroughly clean all toys before and after you use them. This is really easy with toy cleaner or soap and hot water. The “stimulator” tip needs additional attention when cleaning.
• Last tip – if you’d like to experience a bigasm, use this sweet toy on your G-spot and use another toy, your fingers or your partners fingers or mouth on your clitoris at the same time. You will thank me if you try this. If you and your partner are coordinated, combine this idea with a finger or vibrator in your anus and enjoy the sensations of a trigasm
• The “scrubby” or “stimulator” tip feels very good on an erogenous zone too. Think about turning on the vibrator tip on nipples (his and hers), inside the thigh, sensitive spots on the  neck or ear, on the clitoris (depending on the type of stimulation is desired.
• What about using this type on your man – on his perineum (test his sensitivity), on his scrotum and on his shaft — use your imagination and watch his reactions to see if he likes it.
• Depending on the size of an anal vibrator that you or your man or woman enjoy – you could use plenty of lube and use this for anal stimulation – and wouldn’t he love that rabbit tickler on his perineum while his G-spot i being stimulated. Since you have the toy to use, you could also give him oral sex at the same time…
• If you are a woman and you have enjoyed G-spot massage before, or if you want to try it — this is a nice toy for an intense G-spot orgasm ladies. (Don’t forget to go to the bathroom before you start.) I was very pleasantly surprised by how well the stimulator tip worked – and if you’ve never had a G-spot orgasm, you should give it a try I’ve found that often you have to really focus to have a G-spot orgasm, but this toy made it very easy — that is a very nice thing
• G-spot tip – even though this made it easy (for me), you still need to know where the G-spot is located If your partner is using their finger to massage your G-spot, they need to lay their hand with the palm up, insert their finger(s) in your vagina and reach inside a couple of inches. They need to move their forefinger in a “come hither” way and they will be very close to the G-spot. When stimulated, it feels like a small patch of corduroy – that is the area to stimulate.  With this toy, you need to move it so that the “stimulator” tip reaches that spot. Even if you have to “play” to reach the right spot, you will be stimulated If you feel like you have to go to the bathroom – you’re in the right area — don’t stop now… go for it

Ultimate Summer Sex Toy – Add Ice to Your Lovemaking

The Ultimate Summer Sex Toy

By Mitzi Rae (www.shedyourinhibitions.com)

Summer is officially here and the temperature at my house is creeping closer to 100 this afternoon – so my mind is thinking of ways to stay cool. But, we all know that really good sex is often hot and steamy, so how can you integrate the ideas of staying cool and still keeping the sex hot and steamy? My recommendation would be to incorporate ice cubes into your love making. If you haven’t tried it – you really should. Ice cubes are one of the simplest homemade sex toys you may ever use.

The first time a partner used ice cubes with me was after a company banquet and I’d had way too much to drink, so my senses were definitely dulled. But I still enjoyed it very much. When I tried using ice with a partner – without being drunk, I enjoyed it even more

There are many things you can do with ice with your partner to cool things up – while spicing them up. Here are some suggestions and I welcome your comments about other ideas. You know that I’m always looking for good ideas.

Master Sexpert Tips – Before we get started

• Go to the kitchen and get a bowl and fill it up with ice cubes – if you have fancy ice trays, that’s fine too, but they are going to melt quickly, so fancy shapes will only make a first impression.
• I would recommend getting comfortable in a place that can get wet – the ice is going to melt. Or, get a couple of fluffy beach towels or a blanket to lie on.
• A couple of smaller fluffy towels would be useful too – just put them off to the side until you need them.
• If you have air conditioning or fans, definitely turn them on and I enjoy a breeze blowing through an open window too – you know how good it feels to have air blow across your wet body

Master Sexpert Tips to Turn Your Lover On While You Cool Them Off

Okay – we’ve got your supplies together, now let’s get busy.

• Let’s start things a little subtle. When its hot – inside or outside, every inch of your body is hot and wants to cool down.  What spots on your lovers body would you touch with your fingers? Their face, neck, arm, chest, leg, thigh…. Put a piece of ice in your hand and touch all those places with the ice, to keep their interest – slide the ice over their skin from one point to the next. If you want – you slide the ice over their skin and come behind the ice and lick it off. Or, simply let the air hit the wet trail you left.
• Do you and your partner enjoy playing with feet? Then definitely incorporate ice in the time while you’re playing with your partner’s feet.  This can include running the ice over the sole of your feet, around the edges of your feet and around your toes if you want. Have fun with it.
• I don’t know about you – but my head and neck sweat very bad when I’m hot. So, you may want to cool your partner down by running the ice cube along the upper edge of their forehead, and especially on the back of their neck at the base of their hair. If you do this on the forehead, its likely the melted ice will run into their eyes – keep that spare towel handy or lick it off for them…
• Pick a piece of ice that will easily fit in your mouth and think of all the places on your lover’s body that you’d like to kiss. You guessed it – kiss them (sure it will take some imagination) on all of those places, with the ice in your mouth.  This is great in places like their ear lobe, their neck, their chest, their thighs… you can use your imagination. You may or may not want to have your partner close their eyes or maybe use a blindfold – the anticipation of what you will do next can heighten the sensations.
• Find another piece of ice that will fit in your mouth – and kiss your partner, if you’re really creative, pass the piece of ice back and forth to each other. As you do this, the ice cube will get smaller and smaller. Any sort of tongue play that you want to do with your partner with the ice cube, is encouraged. You can enjoy playing with each other with the ice and also the warm and cold areas of your mouth as you play.
• One or both of you can pick up a piece of ice and use it on each other’s breasts – circle the breast, run the ice under the woman’s breast, work your way to the nipple, tease the nipples and watch them getting harder and larger as your play and after a sufficient amount of anticipation, rub the ice cube over the nipples – then it’s wonderful to suck and lick the water off. This can work on either partner, depending on the sensitivity of your nipples, although women may enjoy it more. But don’t ignore his nipples – some men have very sensitive nipples, so never ignore them. If you decide to do this with each other, you can sit facing each other – this will let you tantalize each other while you are being turned on.
• Do you enjoy mammary sex? If so – that can be a great follow up to the last idea. Let your man play with your breasts with the ice and get them good and wet, then have him move closer so that he can slide his penis between your breasts. You can push your breasts together to heighten the sensation for both of you – or you may choose to lower your mouth to take his penis into your mouth while he slides between your breasts.
• Use ice cubes with oral sex. This works for men or women, but a quick warning for women – if you are really sensitive, you should have your partner go down on your while you keep your underpants on. If you can tolerate the cold, your partner can take them off – with their hands or teeth, we’ll leave that up to you J Whether your partner is a man or a woman – you can alternate your mouth and your hands, with or without the ice. You can use your mouth on your partner and use ice in your hands or put the ice in your mouth while giving your partner oral sex. Get creative and watch your partner’s reactions – or ask which they like better and do that again. Remember that a combination of cool mouth, warm mouth, warm hand and hand with ice – variety is stimulating and anticipating what you will do next.
• How could I forget – whether you use the ice during oral sex with your woman or not — consider sliding a piece or two inside her before you have sex with her – it will provide a cool sensation in contrast to her warm body. This will give her a cool sensation along with her man’s penis inside of her or if you want to play with a favorite sex toy with her.
• Bottom line – get creative. You can use a piece of ice in any number of ways and places with your lover — the most important thing to remember, have fun!

Those are my ideas – what do you recommend?

Sex Toy Review – Wanachi Rechargeable Massager

I have to start this by saying that I’ve heard raves about these massagers – but I was confused by how good they could possibly feel. I have to admit that I was wrong – its wonderful. I’m used to the usual toys – and just didn’t understand how this would work. But I’ve always been known for having a great imagination and plenty of creativity – that does come in handy

First – rechargeable toys are very nice. No cord to get in the way and no need to buy batteries.  This is also good for a variety of “aches”  I have horrible sinus trouble and bad migraines – and it has been useful for both. If your neck is stiff or your back hurts – this is a great way to loosen up and work out the kinks. So – you could keep this massager “out in the open” – places you probably wouldn’t keep a phallic shaped toy

While the Wanachi Massager is good for those aches, pains and kinks anywhere on your body – it is also very good for those aches and kinks in more intimate parts of your body.

The head of the massager is flexible – this is nice to use different parts of this vibrator on your body. The massager works to massage your breasts, your nipples, your neck, your thighs and of course the most intimate parts   Keep in mind that since the “head” is bigger than most vibrators, it will stimulate a larger area – and the flexible head also lets you stimulate all those sensitive areas between your legs in a variety of ways. You have some additional options with this massager to simulate “outercourse” during masturabation. How many areas outside of your vagina can you find that like to be stimulated? Hmmmm -

The top of the massager is silky smooth and can be used with or without lube, but we all know lube makes it better I’d love to hear how many ways you find to use your massager. If you really want to share – you can share the most unusual area on your body that you massaged or the most unusual way you used it. Speaking of sharing – you can use this alone, but if your partner is willing – definitely share the massager.

Master Sexpert Tips -

• Use the massager “dry” or with plenty of lube (Moist is a great choice).
• For women – never use a toy in or around the anus and move to or near the vagina without cleaning it thoroughly first – with toy cleaner or soap and water.
• Be creative – this toy has a great shape, so turn it and use at different angles to see which feel better for you.  Let your partner try many variations and let him/her know what you like better. Then use it on them
• Be sure to thoroughly clean all toys before and after you use them. This is really easy with toy cleaner or soap and hot water.
• If you want to give your partner an erotic massage – use this massager to get deeper than you can get with just your hands. You can work out those kinks and pressure points on their body and stimulate them in other ways too — use your imagination and ask what they like, then see if they will give you a massage…
• Ladies – if you have bad cramps with your period and you don’t like the idea of using a dildo or vibrator during that time of the month — keep this massager in mind, it works outside the body and you can definitely have an orgasm with it. Sex and orgasms are a great drug free cramp reliever.

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Sex Toy Review – Waterproof Pretty Pearl G-spot Massager

This is my first review for Pipedream products and I was debating which toy to share with you first. Then a friend helped me make up my mind last night. We were texting each other at the end of the day and he asked his usual question, “Have you had an orgasm today?” I laughed and then texted that I hadn’t. So – he gave his suggestion that I should get a toy out and find my G-spot. This is interesting because years ago we shared my first G-spot orgasm. Sounded like a good suggestion to me

I got two new G-spot toys from Pipedream – so I tried one last night and one tonight. I’ll provide a link here for the Le’Reve Massager so you can read that one too

First let’s talk about the Pretty Pearl G-Spot Vibrator. It does have a pearly pink appearance.  It is also waterproof – so you can use it in the bath or the shower if you want — such a nice way to spice up bathtime

The shape of this vibe is a little different, but its a nice feel instead of the usual G-spot vibe. The larger area behind the G-spot tip is a nice addition.  That area is very nice for clitoral stimulation, as a prelude to stimulating your G-spot The Pretty Pink has 3 speeds – so you can choose your amount of vibration or you can easily adjust the vibe as needed – just push the button on the bottom. Even on high – this toy is pretty quiet. I don’t know about you – but I like quiet toys

Pros of the Pretty Pink G-spot massager -

• Sleek and smooth to the touch
• Nice shape for clitoral or g-spot massage – at different times of course
• Can be used for anal stimulation — see sexpert tip below.
• Quiet and variable speed vibration
• Easy to clean

Sexpert Tips -

• If used for anal stimulation, hold tight to the controller end of the toy since the larger end would be inside and you don’t want to toy to slide in too far
• Use plenty of lube (Moist is a great choice) for clitoral, vaginal, G-spot or especially anal massage
• Never use a toy in the anus and move to the vagina without cleaning it thoroughly first – with toy cleaner or soap and water.
• Be creative – this toy has a great shape, so turn it and use at different angles to see which feel better for you.  Let your partner try many variations and let him/her know what you like better. Then use it on them
• Be sure to thoroughly clean all toys before and after you use them. This is really easy with toy cleaner or soap and hot water.
• Last tip – if you’d like to experience a bigasm, use this sweet toy on your G-spot and use another toy, your fingers or your partners fingers or mouth on your clitoris at the same time. You will thank me if you try this

For more details – http://www.pipedreamproducts.com/showdetail.php?Full_Number=PD1149-11

Sexual Positions Certification

We’ve all heard of the missionary position, many have heard of doggy style and cowgirl positions – but that is only the tip of the sexual iceberg. There are so many other positions – and that’s just the “official” positions. I’m sure most, if not all, people have found other positions that they enjoy in their sexual encounters and I love spontaneity – so positions wouldn’t normally be planned

I recently completed the Sexual Positions Certification course in my Love Coach training. These are some of the topics in this course:

• Finding the Right Position for You
• Masturbation Positions
• Outercourse Positions
• All Oral Sex Positions
• Intercourse Positions
• Anal Sex Positions
• Male/Male Positions
• Female/Female Positions
• Group Sex Positions

Do you agree that list covers all the possibilities? I couldn’t think of any more when I finished the course.

Let me start by saying that safety is a concern and should be considered when deciding what positions to try with your partner. If you see the pictures of some of these positions – you will understand why safety could be an issue. Strength endurance, balance and flexibility are other things that must be considered when deciding what to try.

Part of the content in this course is giving you activities to increase your strength, balance, flexibility and endurance – this will give you the chance to try new and different positions in your sex life. You also need to understand you and your partner’s limitations.

There were a number of tips in the masturbation section that can also be applied with a partner – here is one:

Varying the spread of your legs, arch of your back and angle of your palm help reveal surfaces that you may not have thought of, but can’t imagine living without now that they’ve been found.

Remember that masturbating can be a great way to learn what you like sexually and then you can share those discoveries with your partner — but that’s information for another post

Here is another interesting insight that I wanted to share – many people may not know about “outercourse” -

Outercourse reminds participants to attend to all the potential of their partner’s body rather than targeting the genitals for penetration.

These are some outercourse possibilties -

• Femoral Sex—rubbing between the thighs
• Gluteal Sex—rubbing between the butt cheeks
• Manual Sex—rubbing in the palm of the hand
• Popliteal Sex—rubbing behind the semi-bent knee
• Spinal Sex—rubbing between the neck and shoulder
• Digital Sex—rubbing between fingers and or toes
• Naval Sex—rubbing on or in the belly button

From there – the course moves on to position for male or female oral sex and there are so many possibilities. The same with intercourse and anal sex, there are plenty of options.

Many people are intrigued with threesomes, foursomes and other configurations of group sex – have you thought about all the possible combinations of positions when you add more people to your sexual activities? There are all kinds of options – and this course shows and explains many of them.

There is plenty of information in this course for adventurous people, but there is also great information for people who would just like to add some variety to their sex life. You have the opportunity to study this information in the privacy of your own home and then use only the positions and ideas that appeal to you. I think you and your partner will definitely enjoy the new ideas and options that you will learn here.

Here is more information about the Sexual Positions Course from Loveology University.

Sexual Positions

This Course Is For You If: You want to Learn New Positions for Oral Sex, Masturbation, Intercourse and Anal Sex You want to Add Excitement to Your Relationship with Karma Sutra Positions You want to Discover the Best Positions for Stimulating the G-spot You want to Find the Secret Position that will Enable You and Your Lover to Have Simultaneous Orgasms Welcome to LoveologyUniversity’s Sexual Positions Certification Course. Inside you will learn about a variety of different sexual masturbation, oral sex and intercourse positions, how to perform them, the pros and cons of each position and the best time to engage in them. This course includes some sacred Kama Sutra and Tantric positions you may not have seen before, so get ready to expand your sexual horizon. There are helpful techniques for those whose lovemaking requires special positions such as women who are pregnant or people who have physical disabilities or limitations. Spicing up your love life with sexual position games can create new memories and even better experiences. It’s time to learn something that your mother never taught you, so get into position! Course Price: $69.95 (Includes Video)

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