I’ve Moved the Site – You’re Invited to Visit (Please Read)

Just a quick note to let you know the site is up and working on the new server and the renovation is moving along.  Shadow wanted to help with the move, but decided to curl up in a box for a nap first

I’d love to invite you to come visit and share your thoughts — the URL is the same http://shedyourinhibitions.com/ — but I think you will really enjoy the changes and additions. There will be more — but I’m real happy with the progress so far.

One note to subscribers – in order to continue receiving email updates – you need to subscribe on the new site. Its very easy — just visit http://shedyourinhibitions.com/ and enter your email in the subcription box in the top right corner then you will receive an email to confirm your subcription.

Hope to see you on the new site — feel free to share your comments and thoughts.

M

Upgrade in the Works

A quick note to let my readers know that I’m upgrading and moving the blog. The URL will be the same, but have a whole new look coming — I think you will really like it. Hoping to have http://www.shedyourinhibitions.com back online early this weekend – in the mean time — everything is accessible through this link and I moved the blog back to http://shedyourinhibitions.wordpress.com

I’m looking forward to hearing what you think of the new site and for my subscribers, you will need to resubscribe on the new platform – but I’ll post a reminder.

Will be back in touch soon

M

Kissing Classes on The Doctors

For a sneak peek into some of the information in the kissing course from Loveology University – watch Dr Ava on The Doctors in this video clip

http://www.thedoctorstv.com/main/home_page?init_type=Feature&init_id=3242

Here are some details from the Kissing Course – (in California you can earn CEUs with this course)

• What Kissing Is
• Kinds of Kisses
• History of Kissing
• Myths of Kissing
• Preparing for the Kiss
• The Art of Kissing
• Kissing Rules
• What Can be Kissed
• Kissing Targets
• G-Love
• Where to Sneak a Kiss
• Kissing – How To
• Tantra Kisses
• Kissing Positions
• Kissing All Five Senses
• Kissing Boundaries
• Healing Kisses
• Kissing Fears
• Kiss-ercise
• Kissing Games
• Kissing Concerns
• Orgasmic Kissing
• Kissing with Piercing
• The Hickey Kiss
• Kissing Crimes
• Kissing the Genitals

and more……

These are some of the things covered in the course — and the homework is wonderful

This Course Is For You If:

• You want to Learn the Art of Tantric Kissing
• You want to Discover What Can and Should be Kissed
• You want to Become Skilled at Kissing Positions
• You want to Know the Secret to Orgasmic Kissing

Welcome to Loveology University’s Kissing Certification Course. Inside you will learn everything you ever wanted to know about the most intimate act of kissing. There’s a lot more to kissing than two lips meeting and by the end of this course, you’ll be an expert on the history of kissing, the latest scientific research, dozens of sexy kissing tips and techniques, games, positions, places to kiss and you’ll discover what your kissing style says about you. Now pucker up for the ultimate kissing experience.

More Details About Becoming a Certified Kisser -

https://www.loveologyuniversity.com/ShortCourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=23

Review – Add Some Smooth Sensual Loving to Your New Year

Its a new year and time for celebration and fun. Its a time for rebirth and starting over. Have you started or tried anything new with your partner? Its time for some lovin’ and smooth sensual lovin’ is the best.  That’s a reason why I wanted to share my review for Moist Gel. For everyone who wants a smooth, sensual and sexy start to the New Year — its time to show a little self love (masturbate) and to show your partner how much you want to please them. That also means it would be a great time to try Moist Gel – Personal Lubricant.

Some time ago I shared my review for Moist Lubricant – http://shedyourinhibitions.com/2010/05/27/sex-toy-review-moist-personal-lubricant/

The regular Moist Lubricant is very good – but some people may have a concern about it being a thin liquid. The gel form is for people who are looking for a thicker lubricant. This is still very easy to use and spreads great on your hands or other body parts but it is a thicker consistency. You could try both – to see which consistency you prefer. It will likely remind you of a hair gel product when you first feel it.

If you haven’t used a lube before or if you’re looking for suggestions, here are some Master Sexpert Tips

Lube is beneficial for many forms of sexual activity – masturbation, vaginal intercourse, anal sex and flavored lubes are great for oral sex – pick your flavor or choice or try different flavors.  Some lubes are especially made for use in the tub, shower or hot tub.

1. Never use a silicone lube with silicone toys.
2. Always use a water based lube inside a woman’s body
3. Always use a water based lube with condoms – oil and petroleum based lubes should not be used with condoms because it can cause the condom to deteriorate
4. Warming lubes are great for nipple and breast stimulation and can be used on the genitals – however all lubes will help your hands slide over your partner’s body easier and more sensually
5. If you prefer more vigorous sex – definitely use lube to cut down on the friction and to let your partner thrust harder and longer. The lube provides the option to have more rigorous sex without the chafing etc that can happen after rough and/or long lovemaking sessions.
6. Water based lubes are a great choice, they are compatible with all toys and with condoms, it is easy to clean, and it doesn’t stain.
7. You may want to test several types of lubes on your own to see which type and what feel you like better. Then keep it close to your bed, in your glove compartment or purse — depending on where you plan to have sex
8. Moist Gel is thick enough to be used for anal sex
9. The tube is easy to open, easy to get the desired amount of lube out and easy to close.

Visit the Pipedream Products page for Moist Gel – http://www.pipedreamcompanystore.com/showdetail_c.php?Full_Number=PD9716-01

Feel free to share your thoughts and experiences with any of the Moist Lubricants —

Are You Up for Talking Dirty?

I just heard about a writing contest — here are the details….

Here’s a variation on “talk dirty to me.”  In the spirit of the holidays, my friend and sister Quiver author Dr. Sonia Borg and I are running two contests.  The winners can choose one of her books AND one of mine.

Contest #1: Holiday Erotica (suggested by our most excellent IT Babe, Lindsey Cardarelli)

Send us your original erotic story by midnight December 22.  Any length up to 2,000 words.  Sonia, Lindsey, Kimmie and I will select a male and female winner whose stories will be published on SexyPrime.  The book package will also include some little treats like individually wrapped packets of lube and official NYC condoms and at least one vibrating surprise courtesy of Babeland.

Attach your entry to this post as a comment or send it to me via email by hitting the email button on the left hand side of the blog or using this address:  sexyprimequiver@gmail.com

SexyPrime is read in almost every country on the planet–and by a lot of people in book and magazine publishing in the U.S. and the U.K.–making it a good place to showcase your creative work.

We can’t wait to read your stories……

Holiday kisses from Sonia, Lindsey, Kimmie, Mary (SexyPrime’s godmother)–and me.

And we also invite you to become fans of Quiver’s Facebook page.  Quiver Books creates the most elegantly erotic sex books on the market.  By joining the fan page, you will be the first to know about upcoming books and promotions.

It Starts with Loving Yourself

I definitely believe that we must love ourselves in order to be a truly happy, lasting and satisfying partner in a relationship. First and foremost, how can you honestly expect and ask someone to love you – if you don’t love yourself? I’m not talking about being conceited and thinking you are better than other people — this is about loving, caring and respecting yourself.

I just read a wonderful chapter in True Love: How to Make Your Relationship Sweeter, Deeper and More Passionate by Daphne Rose Kingma and I have to share it with you….

Love Yourself

All too many of us consider love to be the miracle by which, finally, we will become complete human beings. This is the fixer-upper notion of love, the idea that we’re not all right as we are, but if we can just get loved by somebody, then that will prove that we’re ok.

Ironically, however, in order to be well loved, you need first to love yourself. For in love, we get not necessarily what we deserve, but what we THINK we deserve. Just as Harry Homeowner who has a house that’s worth one million dollars might sell it for only $500,000 if that’s all he thinks it’s worth, so the person who underestimates his or her own value will be be shortchanged in love.

Love begets love. If you don’t think well of yourself, you can’t be positively affected by the person who is celebrating you for the specialness you don’t believe you have. If you don’t know, and love, what’s important, special, precious, and beautiful about yourself, you can be sure you will not be serenaded, sent roses, lauded, paraded or daily smothered in kisses by someone who does.

Loving yourself is knowing yourself, enjoying and valuing yourself, and understanding that self-knowledge i a lifelong personal enterprise. It means that you appreciate yourself at least as much as you value your honey, that you know he or she is lucky in love as you believe you are. It means you measure your strengths and weaknesses neither with the abuse of self deprecation not the insanity of ego mania, but with genuineness, with accuracy. Loving yourself is recognizing your gifts and talents, and putting them to good use, acknowledging your flaws, and forgiving yourself for them. Loving yourself is reaching for more, for the best, in yourself.

So often we put up with shabby treatment in love because we don’t believe we deerve better. But self love is always a model for the love you may reasonably expect, the true measure of the love you will give and get. Your heart can only hold as much love as you believe it can. So treat yourself better, believe you deserve to be treated well, and you will get treated ever more wonderfully in love.

True Love: How to Make Your Relationship Sweeter, Deeper and More Passionate by Daphne Rose Kingma – pages 30  – 31

Sex Toy Review – Vibrating Nipple Pumps (Pipedream)

I have to admit that my curiosity got the best of me. I wanted to experiment with something different, so I got the Fetish Fantasy Vibrating Nipple Pumps. I have to start by saying that nothing beats the mouth and tongue of a skillful partner – but this is interesting and stimulating. I’ve always been curious about a penis pump — now I have an idea of what they feels like. Although obviously on different body parts But I think its the same basic idea. If anyone has a different thought about that, definitely let me know.

Okay – let me start by telling you that Pipedream has a nice selection of nipple accessories and toys – depending on what you want. To view their full line of Nipple Stimulators and Pumps, click here. There are various kinds and a wide range in prices.

I will share my experimentation and my experience – I also welcome your comments.  Be warned that you will have to figure out how it all works and the picture does help. Here is what I did –

• Take all the pieces out of the box
• There are batteries which you will need to put into the vibrator tips

Master Sexpert Tips

• This is where it gets complicated alone – at least the first time. You need to hold both of the cups against your skin firmly. Holding them with one hand is best because you will need to squeeze the bulb.
• You can wet the skin around your nipples or the edge of the “cup” before placing it against the skin. There is a sample tube of Moist Lubricant (http://shedyourinhibitions.com/2010/05/27/sex-toy-review-moist-personal-lubricant/)  in the box and a sample of sex toy cleaner too.
• Make sure the cup is placed so that it cover the nipple completely and its good to center the nipple
• If you want some vibration, twist the black caps on the vibrator “bullet”
• With the cups placed againt the skin and over your nipples – squeeze the bulb and you should feel the suction and a tug right away. The intensity will vary if cups aren’t placed firmly against the skin.
• Each time you squeeze the bulb, you will increase the pressure and the suction – so you or your partner control the sensations you feel. The more suction you use, the larger your nipples will become.
• Once you have the cups in place and the suction working, you can play with the amount of suction. If you feel the suction or tension lessening, just squeeze the bulb again.
• If you want a different tingle on your nipples, gently tap the black button just beside the bulb you sqeezed. I think it tickles, but don’t press it too far or the cups will come off.
• Play around with the vibration and the suction to see how much you like. Obviously different people will like it different.
• Be sure the cups are centered over your nipple for the best stimulation and this will enlarge your nipples. If the cups aren’t centered, the suction will tug on the skin around your nipples.
• Try this on your male or female partner — remember that many men enjoy nipple stimulation too
• If you do this right — its guaranteed to give you large, hard, perky nipples

If you like the idea of the suction, but prefer to try it on your clitoris, click here for another Fetish Fantasy Series – Vibrating Clit Super Suck Her.

Here is some details from the Pipedream webite -

Nipple Vibrator – http://www.pipedreamcompanystore.com/showdetail_c.php?Full_Number=PD3223-00&DB_Number=

Fetish Fantasy Series
Vibrating Nipple Super Suck-hers

Get your nipples perking with pleasure with the Fetish Fantasy Vibrating Nipple Pumps! Turn on the mini vibrators, place the cupped Nipple Pumps over the nipples and squeeze the medical-style pump ball until the suckers stay in place. The stimulating suction, combined with titillating vibrations, brings on a whole new realm of pleasure possibilities. Just press the quick release button to relieve the pressure and you’re ready for perky fun. Try it in the shower or hot tub and turn bath time into passion time!

Sex Toy Review – System JO Offers a Variety of Lube Options for Sexual Pleasure

I have done several reviews for various lubricants, stimulants and System JO Massage Glide, which can also be used as a lube. Today, I want to share details about the great options from System JO. We’re going to cover plenty of options — get your wish list ready.

Are you one of the people who doesn’t use or has never used a lubricant? Many people feel they don’t need to use any additional lubrication or have some confusion about lubes, but I would highly recommend that you give it a try. Maybe you’ve tried KY or water, or saliva – these are okay, but none are really effective. Some lube can also be great for foreplay when you’re both getting in the mood. There are also some times when women won’t be a wet, even with the usual stimulation — so add some lube to make it more pleasurable for both of you. If you’re embarrassed about buying lubricant at the store, you can order it online and its shipped to you discreetly. The items I share in this post can all be found here – http://www.systemjo.com/public/products/jo-personal-lubricants

The need or desire to use lube when you’re having sex, enjoying some foreplay or even masturbating — don’t feel like using lube shows anything lacking in your body or your technique. Its a totally natural thing to add extra lubrication. For fast sex, you may not need any lubrication, for a pre-lubed condom, you may not need anything extra. But for long lasting sexual intercourse, for sex in a hot tub or pool, for anal sex or simply for wetter sex with less friction – lube is the answer. You may have heard of people using a lot of lube, you should experiment with the amount and type of lube that’s best for you and your partner.

One of the great things about lube is that you can decide how wet you want your play to be — you can add a little lube to limit the amount of friction or you can use more during times and activities when you need more lubrication. You can also use a lot of lube if you prefer a “sloppy wet” experience. Lube is another way to make the sexual experience the best it can be for you and your partner. Flavored lubes are great for oral sex – they provide additional moisture and many people enjoy choosing a flavor. Some of the options include: raspberry sorbet, chocolate delight, lemon splash, peachy lips, cherry burst, banana lick, juicy pineapple, sweet pomegranate, strawberry kiss, tangerine dream, tropical passion and flavored watermelon. Think of the options and combinations — yummmm Anyone who reads my posts know how much I like to recommend creativity and spontaneity….

Here are some of your options with SystemJO – to get your imagination working.

You can start with a simple water based lube – it is compatible with all materials, safe to use in or on the body, is very easy to clean up and comes in warming, cooling, flavored and regular varieties. It is safe for use with condoms and with any kind of toys – including any silicone toys.

A Premium Silicone Lube which is very long lasting, can be used in water, but should not be used inside the body or with silicone toys.

The flavored lubes are scented and flavored to add several additional sensory benefits for you and your partner. These are also very good for people who are leery or uncomfortable giving oral sex. With a wide variety of flavors, there is something for everyone.

Do you like the warming or cooling sensations – System JO offers lubes that are warming or cooling to the touch. You can use one or the other, or a combination of the two. It all depends on what you and your lover like – or how creative you want to get. Maybe you want a cooling touch on your nipples and a warming touch between your legs – that is very easy to accomplish with warming and cooling lubes.

Seriously – the sky is the limit and you are only limited by your imagination — take a look at the options and buy a variety pack and see which sensations you like the best.  You can experiment with how much lube is best for you. Pour some warming lube or massage glide on your hands and then start by massaging your partner’s breasts. Maybe your partner would like you to start with their feet and work your way up their legs – your lube slicked hands are going to feel very erotic and your hands slide over their skin.

Your partner probably doesn’t want to feel like you are “groping” them, but some lube gives you the advantage of having a stimulating and erotic touch as you slide your hands over parts of your partner’s body. Again — you should experiment with how much lube is best for you. System JO lubes are thicker than many, they are long last (silicone being the most long lasting) and they are very moisturizing. I have found that their products really are not sticky or tacky — they feel natural. I have not tried them all, but I have tried 5 or 6 different products and they feel great.

Master Sexpert Tips

Let’s get down to my Master Sexpert Tips for you —

1. Lube is beneficial for many forms of sexual activity – masturbation, vaginal intercourse, anal sex and flavored lubes are great for oral sex – pick your flavor or choice or try different flavors.
2. Silicone lubes are especially made for use in the tub, shower or hot tub.
3. Never use a silicone lube with silicone toys.
4. Always use a water based lube inside a woman’s body
5. Warming lubes are great for nipple and breast stimulation and can be used on the genitals
6. For more vigorous sex – use lube to cut down on the friction and to let your partner thrust harder – for longer — and often, that’s what we want — isn’t it?
7. Oil and petroleum based lubes should not be used with condoms because it can cause the condom to deteriorate – KY Jelly should NOT be used with condoms
8. Water based lubes are a great choice, they are compatible with all toys and with condoms, it is easy to clean, and it doesn’t stain.
9. You may want to test several types of lubes on your own to see which type and what feel you like better. Then keep it close to your bed, in your glove compartment or purse — depending on where you may have sex
10. Silicone lubes are very long lasting during sex, and they are more difficult to clean up.
11. The wide variety of lubes offer you and your partner many possibilities – so give it a try and see what feels best for you and your lover.
12. While lube makes sex with your lover more fun – it is also great for self love. You may want to try the lube out on your own and then introduce it with your partner once you have experimented with the types to see what you like the best

5 Ways To Keep Romance Alive – In Tough Economic Times

We all know you can set the mood for romance with a nice dinner and a good bottle of wine at a quiet, intimate restaurant, but during economic downturns, we need to create romance on a shoestring budget, A tight budget, doesn’t mean you have to skimp on romance. Even in good financial time, not everyone can afford to spend big money on romance. A dash of creativity can generate the same results — without breaking the bank.

Most people know about ‘his and hers’ items like bathrobes and towels, but you can make just about any item – his and hers with some imagination. Try getting or creating matching T-shirts with cute sayings on them.  Have matching his and hers overnight bags, coffee mugs, bicycles, cell phones, tennis rackets, and even matching carved pumpkins on Halloween.

Surprise your partner by making something ordinary a little more special. If he or she is enjoying a good book, remove the bookmark and replace it with a note that says, “I bet you’ll never guess where I’ve hidden your bookmark.” If they always turn the TV on when they come home from work, tape a note on the television that says, “Wouldn’t you rather turn me on?” If they always read the paper – add a post it note to their favorite section with a “coupon” for a massage.

Making important memories is one way to be romantic on a budget. Challenge your partner to remember the most romantic kiss that you’ve seen in a movie. This will lead to some discussion about romantic kisses and should enhance the mood. As a surprise, buy that movie one day and try to recreate that special romantic kiss! Keep it in a special place and re-watch it whenever the mood strikes. If you can’t agree on the single most romantic kiss, go ahead and create a top five list. This tip works for anything.

• The top five most romantic songs.
• The top five most romantic movies.
• The top five most romantic books.

You see the pattern. Make sure to go ahead and buy the books, songs, movies or whatever so you can use them in the future.

If you want to plan the ultimate romantic evening but funds are low or you simply don’t want to have to leave the house, shut down the electricity and imitate a power outage (it’s up to you whether or not you tell him or her!).  You won’t have any distractions or heat, so it is up to both of you to keep the other warm and entertain each other.

It’s hard to find anyone who doesn’t enjoy an Oreo cookie.  Take an Oreo (or generic version of one), scratch the top of the cookie until smooth and then scratch a heart and your initials into the smooth surface.  You can also make your own cookies and create personal messages.  Icing with a personal message is great on sugar cookies, cupcake or any other treat. You can also give your spouse a true treat and track down a box of his or her favorite Girl Scout cookie or get their favorite from a local deli.

These 5 simple ideas are sure to warm up any relationship. Don’t be afraid to try simple tips and changes to “routines” to spice things up without having it cost a fortune!

Review – Stimulation Gel from System JO

Some women want or need some additional stimulation to be satisfied when they make love. This is something that they can have, very easily and it can greatly increase their sexual satisfaction. Sometimes you just need a bit more – to help you reach a climax.

 

This clitoral stimulation gel gives you a warm and tingling sensation. Imagine the feeling of your partner’s warm breath on you and combine that with the tingling sensation of peppermint — this is the feeling you get with this gel. Combined with your usual stimulation by yourself or with your partner – you experience a more intense climax.

 

You may want to experiment with how much of the stimulation gel you personally need. The tube says there is enough in this small tube for up to 50 applications. If you want to get creative — and I always recommend being creative – you could use a bit on your nipples, ear lobes, your perineum, and so many other spots on your body and your partner’s body. I can’t guarantee that you will enjoy testing this stimulation gel on your erogenous zones – but I like so suggest creative ideas. And remember to give back to your partner. Feel free to come back and post ideas about where you would like to try this gel….

 

Description from System JO website – JO Clitoral Stimulation Gel

JO Clitoral Stimulant Gel is formulated to promote sexual sensitivity in women, resulting in a gratifying orgasmic response. JO Clitoral Stimulant Gel will cause a pleasant and satisfying warm and cooling tingling sensation resulting in increased sexual pleasure and satisfaction.

• The only Silicone Based Stimulating Gel
• NO L-Arginine
• PH Balanced and Hormone Free
• Safe for use with Condoms
• Up to 50 Applications per tube

There are a variety of formulas- so there is the right strength for each woman

• JO Clitoral Stimulating Gel Light – Light Formula for more sensitive women.
• JO Clitoral Stimulating Gel Mild – Regular strength JO with an added sensation.
• JO Clitoral Stimulation Gel Wild – Wild formula for women who need an extra sensation
• JO Clitoral Stimulating Gel Atomic – Atomic formula delivers the ultimate stimulation.